The reason so many of us are drawn to the idea of getting unstuck is because feeling stuck in life is such a common experience. Maybe we continually get distracted at work as projects mount or get hooked into the same arguments in our relationships, or just can’t seem to get back on the treadmill.
Feeling stuck is part of the human experience. So how do we get unstuck?
In order to get unstuck we need to understand that there are perceptions, judgments and opinions that occur so quickly beneath our awareness that we get stuck before we even notice any thoughts arise. Your mind judges exercise as “bad” before the conscious excuse comes up. Your partner was “wrong” milliseconds after he opened his mouth.
So we can follow the stories of our minds about why we can’t exercise or why your partner is a jerk or how the projects can wait, but those stories are secondary to the first thing we have the option to notice and that’s the actual feeling of being stuck. The physical feeling is a fact that we can bring our attention to interrupt the downward cycle as it’s occurring to get unstuck.
Easier said than done.
She says, “Somebody says a harsh word and something in you tightens: instantly you’re hooked. That tightness quickly spirals into blaming the person or denigrating yourself. The chain reaction of speaking and acting or obsessing happens fast.”
It happens so fast that at times we’re not aware of it until we’re deeply stuck. However, here is the critical point. In that moment we know we’re stuck, we’re present and now we are sitting in a space where we can choose a different response.
There’s the famous saying, If you can name it, you can tame it.
Here are 4 steps to get unstuck:
Even if the choice doesn’t stick at first, know that this practice in itself is training your mind to get unstuck from the cycles it gets caught in. When you notice yourself wandering into past habitual ways of being, know that is expected and just gently guide yourself back.
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Last reviewed: 23 Oct 2010