3 Steps to Boosting Self-Esteem: Mondays Mindful Quote
There is a tradition on the Mindfulness and Psychotherapy Blog. Every Monday (or Tuesday in today’s case) I’m going to cite a quote or a poem that is related to mindfulness and psychotherapy in some way and then explore it a bit and how it is relevant to our lives. For me, quotes and poetry can often sink me into a state of greater understanding.
“To be in harmony with the wholeness of things is not to have anxiety over imperfections.” ~ Dogen Zenji
A constant struggle and dissonance with our imperfections may very well be the #1 issue with self-esteem which feeds into greater stress, anxiety and depression.
Yes, you can quote me on that. We all have it and the media feeds it. Some of us were young and felt like we had to be perfect in order to get positive attention or love from your parents. Others became enthralled with the media and airbrushed pictures of models showing us what a “normal” body looks like. Or maybe it was the billboards and cartoon commercials showing you how happy the children were when they had a particular expensive toy that you didn’t have.
In some way the message is that we’re defective, deficient and imperfect.
The newsflash is that we are ALL imperfect and that is Ok. Dogen Zenji’s quote tells us that to cultivate a sense of harmony, peace and happiness in our lives a path is to create peace with our imperfections.
I just want to clarify that this does not mean become complacent and not make plans to move toward mental and physical health. This simply means to understand that we are all imperfect and to begin practicing kindness, instead of fear and hate, toward your imperfections when they arise. Then you can make a plan to improve things and engage with that plan.
Ok, so practically speaking how do we do this?
- Acceptance – The first step is to accept the fact that you are imperfect as we all are.
- Ants - The automatic negative thoughts (ANTS) may arise “yes, but I have many more imperfections than most people.” If and/or when this happens, notice that as an automatic habitual …





