Looking For a Higher Power In Recovery?

Looking for a higher power in recovery?
How about skillpower?
Skillpower, as I see it, is a higher power than, say, willpower.
A mind that whiteknuckles itself (through willpower) handicaps itself with black-and-white thinking.
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A collection of my essays on recovery/addictions (as a possible resource...
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Why Fear Compassion

A few years ago I wrote about BugZooka which is a “fast, simple, safe and clean way to rid your home of unwanted spiders and bugs.”

Well, it broke. Which is no big deal, of course, particularly after a couple of years of use. So, I readily and promptly ordered another one. It arrived: nothing has changed – same excellent product that it was. The packaging, however, seems to be just a tad more psychologically sophisticated. The product promises a “kinder, gentler way...
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Rethink Yourself

The question of "Who am I?" is really a question of "Where/When am I?" since the answer is not a "this" or "that" but always a "here-now."

Self is a space that is aware. Not a thing that is aware. But a space,...
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Wim Hof: Through Cold to Warmth

The Iceman (Wim Hof) - an incredible fakir-style teacher - says:

"Go back to the grief. Go back to the lost love. I want to bring back love in the world. Love is compelled by happiness, strength and health. If you radiate good energy, because you're happy, healthy and that's love. So love is my mission."

An amazing message.  So, I thought I'd share it.

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Going Deeply into a Question

Whenever I read Jiddu Krishnamurti - which is often - I savor a frequent-flyer phrase of his: "going deeply into a question."  For example, he might say: "Let us go deeply into this "

What does that mean - to go deeply into a question?  Is it to doggedly seek an answer to it?  Perhaps.

Or is to swim upstream - to the source of the question?  To ask oneself: "Who is this who is asking this...
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From Withness to Oneness

Two people with each other in withness — Truman Capote
Withness is a strange word, isn't it? Sounds like "witness" but it's not - there is an unexpected "h" in there. Togetherness is a more familiar word.  The word "withness," as unfamiliar as it is to most of us, is a neat anagram-like mneumonic device for something that is quite relationally elusive but essential.

1. "Withness" has a "witness" in it: withness isn't just about being with...
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Romance of Attention

A woman in a blue dress is walking with determination towards a fountain: is she (passively) drawn (attracted) by the object that she wishes to see or is she (freely) propelling herself towards the object that she wishes to see? An interplay, it seems. First, she is attracted by the object of interest (which is passive). Then, she pursues (freely, actively) the object of her interest. the scene is not what I projected onto...
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Mind of an Athlete (Interview with Mike Whiteman with Fast-and-Jacked)

There is a curious quote by Arnold Schwarzenegger:
“My body is like breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I don't think about it, I just have it.”
I am not sure in what context he said this. Was he shrugging off a compliment? Or alluding to the idea that a healthy body doesn’t get in the way, doesn’t ache, doesn’t complain but obediently and diligently serves the mind of its owner? As I said, I am not sure of...
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