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Realizations

Therapy doesn't just change those I offer it to, it changes me as well.  Over the years, I've heard myself say things in the moment that were new to me as well.  Therapy is a mysterious, living process.  An encounter like no other.  A tango of consciousness.  The following are three foundational realizations that have crystallized over time for me and for some of my clients.  These ideas have to...
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Psychoanalyze, Don’t Moralize

Evil is not a psychological category.  Evil is a moral category.  I invite you to psychoanalyze, not moralize.  Here are a few propositions for you.

"There is no evil - there is just ignorance, greed, fear, obsession and indifference."

Ok, let's unpack this step by step.

Ignorance is not evil.  Ignorance is the result of any number of psychological, sociological and educational factors.  Ignorance can be the result of misguided cultural programming (eg racism, chauvinism, nationalism, etc).  Ignorance...
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Relating to Whatever Is Alive

Some rescue dogs. I rescue garlic. When I see a sprouting clove I find it really hard to chop it up. I think: "Just like me, you little bastard, you wanna see the " And I feel compelled to rescue it. Surely, it is compassion (identification) that borders on neurosis. Everything can be in excess, even compassion. This Jain wanna-be knows But then again I take the tribute by callously biting off...
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The Esperanto of Empathy


Stumbled upon this amazing video on Facebook.  A Facebook friend commented: "People are beautiful." Yes, they are.  I think - and this might be overly optimistic of me to say - this kind of beauty of empathy can be leveraged from just about anyone...
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Zoo of Consciousness

I reject zoos. If I didn't have a child young enough to still see zoos as entertainment rather than incarceration (conservation rationalizations aside), I'd never go to a zoo. But as it stands, I even have a yearly membership.

Wittgenstein wrote:
"Consciousness in the face of...
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Breaking Good

Watched the latest episode of "Breaking Bad" - one more to go.

Time to project my worldview on this epic mess.

There is no evil here.

Walter is clear: I made mistakes but my motives were innocent - I was just trying to take care of my family.

And he is right. That's how I see it too: to me it's the motives that count. Motivationally we are all innocent.

Walter White - as I see it - is not...
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Betrayal Inoculation Valentine’s Day Special

Knowing how to forgive is an essential, if not the essential skill of love.  On that note, in continuation of the 360 Degrees of Compassion  series, I’d like to offer you an example of betrayal and forgiveness, from Nineteen Eighty-Four, George Orwell’s famous dystopian novel.

Nineteen Eighty-Four is a very complex work with multiple layers of meaning.  To date, the book has been translated into 65 languages – more than any other novel.   So, for those of you who aren’t familiar with this...
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