-1Identity theft is when someone identifies themselves as you and steals your resources.  Identity giveaway is when you identify as someone else and surrender your sense of individuality and uniqueness.

All identification with the external is a giveaway of your essence.

Identity giveaway begins with social comparisons and peaks with social imitation.

The word “identity” comes from the Latin word idem, which means “same.”  Identity is built through identification with the external, with what you are not. We determine our identities by comparing ourselves to “not-ourselves” and thereby try to determine who we are. We tend to think along the lines of “I am like this or that” or “I am like so-and-so or that-and-such.”  Therein lies the problem.

You aren’t like anything or anybody else, even if you are similar.  Similarity isn’t sameness.  No one is the same as you. There is no one like you.  You are not an almost-you, or a kinda-you, or a sorta-you.  You are one of a kind, fully and uniquely you!  When we identify (equate) ourselves with the external, with what is not us, we ignore the very uniqueness that makes us different.

Recognize that uniqueness is beyond comparison.  Recognize that you are beyond comparison.  Recognize that as long as you define what you are by what you are not, you are exchanging your uniqueness and oneness for similarity.  And, in so doing, you are giving away your identity and losing sight of your essential, unique self.  Identification with the external is an identity giveaway.

Identity giveaway, just like identity theft, is a loss of self.

Adapted from Lotus Effect (Pavel Somov, New Harbinger Publications, 2010)

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    Last reviewed: 6 Aug 2013

APA Reference
Somov, P. (2013). Identity Giveaway. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 29, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/mindful-living/2013/08/identity-giveaway/

 

Select books by Pavel G. Somov, Ph.D.:
Mindful Emotional Eating Reinventing the Meal
Present Perfect
Eating the Moment


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