Truth be told: truth is silent. Put differently, there is no truth. Truth is consensus. But consensus is just agreement, not truth. Truth is an illusion of simplicity.
Case in point: are you one or are you many? This brain, for example, that you are using right now to read this sentence is not really an organ, but an organization – a multi-billion army of stand-alone neurons. Which neuron are you? All of them? That’s a cop out, not an answer. You can stroke out and lose a few and still feel like you are there. This neuron or that one, you say? Fact is there is no one neuron that you specifically are…
Where am I going with this? To here: I am simply trying to point out to you that there is nothing simple about who we are and who our partners are. We are bewildering complexities. So, humble yourself. Whoever you are with, you are in front of yet another wonder of this world, far more complex than the hanging gardens of Babylon. We all speak our own language, each conversing in our own Dialect of Subjectivity. No wonder we misunderstand each other. And what a wonder that we now and then manage to feel understood!
Let go of the desire to oversimplify each other. Accept that there is always going to be some unaccounted variance in the equation of communication. And celebrate the privilege of human connection that you still do have.
[excerpt from a book I am working on, "Four Legs of Support"]
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