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Acceptance of Denial

Friday, July 8th, 2011

Denial is often viewed as a failure of acceptance.  When viewed as such, denial seems irrational.  But, of course, it isn’t.  Denial is an affirmation of status quo.  Denial is an insistence on what subjectively is.  Reality changes non-stop.  But mind doesn’t.  Mind first creates an illusion of permanence and then clings to its own version of reality.  How wondrous!

Denial is an essential part of our survival know-how.  Accept the coping legitimacy of denial.

But denial is more than just survival.  Denial is evidence of our remarkable ability to re-create reality to fit precisely with our moment-specific needs.

Denial is customized perception, a pattern-hold, an amazing unconscious (!) transformation of the stone-hard reality into a soft pillow of the mind-specific dream-world.  There is a dream-weaving magician inside each and every one of us.

Denial is the 8th Wonder of the world.

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Pavel G. Somov, Ph.D. is the author of The Lotus Effect, Present Perfect, The Smoke-Free Smoke Break, and Eating the Moment: 141 Mindful Practices to Overcome Overeating One Meal at a Time.

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