Mindful Eating: Open Your Mind Before You Open Your Mouth

Taking the Harm Out of Emotional Eating

Here’s a question that guides my clinical mind: “What do clients want?  And how do I help my clients feel ok about what they want and help them get what they want while minimizing problematic behaviors and facilitating desired change?” This very question is at the core of humanistic harm reduction (HHR).  And it is at the core of my Mindful Emotional Eating approach.

When my clients present with concerns about “emotional eating,” I ask them...
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360 of Compassion

Realizations

Therapy doesn't just change those I offer it to, it changes me as well.  Over the years, I've heard myself say things in the moment that were new to me as well.  Therapy is a mysterious, living process.  An encounter like no other.  A tango of consciousness.  The following are three foundational realizations that have crystallized over time for me and for some of my clients.  These ideas have to...
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Life Isn’t Simple

There's a meme going around that "discipline is freedom."  Let's take a moment to examine this proposition.  Indeed, when you are disciplined, when you do what you choose to do, your life acquires a quality of predictability and order.  Before too long you begin to experience yourself as psychologically sovereign, as somewhat invulnerable to external influences.  You begin to experience yourself as self-determined.  As your discipline continues to crystallize and consolidate, you become an unwavering...
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360 of Compassion

Psychoanalyze, Don’t Moralize

Evil is not a psychological category.  Evil is a moral category.  I invite you to psychoanalyze, not moralize.  Here are a few propositions for you.

"There is no evil - there is just ignorance, greed, fear, obsession and indifference."

Ok, let's unpack this step by step.

Ignorance is not evil.  Ignorance is the result of any number of psychological, sociological and educational factors.  Ignorance can be the result of misguided cultural programming (eg racism, chauvinism, nationalism, etc).  Ignorance...
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Acceptance-Based Perfectionism

Never Mind This Book Review

I read a lot.  And I shamelessly deface the books that I read - I write in them.  I don't just underline, I circle, I annotate.  Books in my collection can never be resold by a traditional second-hand bookseller because they are full of my reading graffiti.  Wayne Liquorman's book "Never Mind: a Journey Into Non-duality" is totally destroyed after reading: it's dog-eared in a dozen of places, it's littered with notes, exclamation signs and coffee...
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Toroidal Emptiness

Toroidal beings are oral: we erroneously over-identify with our contents, unable to stomach the emptiness of our essence.  Toroidal orality is insatiable.  Accepting our emptiness is fulfilling.

Context:
What is "toroidal"?
That which is in the shape of a donut, with a hole in the middle.  That's what we really are like.  If you imagine any human body without limbs, just a torso, you will see that there is a hole/tube running through us.  It's the GI (gastrointestinal)...
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How Body Creates Mind

Something to ponder:

Look at your hand. Who is looking? This body that you call your mind, that you call "you." What are you looking at? You are looking at your body, which is you. So, a thing is looking at itself ... But here is the point to consider: looking is a distance sense.  Looking is for detecting others. So when this body uses its own distance-sense that is meant for looking at others, it...
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12-Step v. Non-Step

IRETA (Institute for Research, Education and Training in Addictions) published an article "Comparing 12-Step and Non-Step Models of Addiction Recovery" (2013) which offers a (favorable) review of my approach to substance use treatment.

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Here's an excerpt:

"Recovery Equation is Pittsburgh psychologist Pavel Somov’s novel approach to drug and alcohol treatment. His theory draws from a variety of teachings such as cognitive behavioral therapy, cognitive dissonance, stress inoculation, and motivational enhancement therapy. Somov views recovery as the sum of three components: the development of...
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Want an Extra Eye?

Imagine you had the option of having an extra eye ... installed in your head.  Would you want one?  And where would you put it?  On top - so that you can always see the sky?  On the back - like a back-up camera...
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