Change, growth is often invisible. Too subtle, too gradual, too incremental to notice. Sometimes too erratic, too spontaneous – each precedent, each pattern-break as messy as a brush stroke. Yet, eventually a healing vector emerges. A pattern of wellbeing begins to evidence itself.
Shinagawa Tetsuzan, a Buddhist calligrapher and a poet, wrote:
“Don’t know when, but in the garden of our house a young bamboo is out, growing an inch a day.”
Therapy, as I see it, is a mirror that highlights the slow calligraphy of change: clients tend to be surprised when I point out to them how they used to respond and how they respond now. Sometimes they themselves know that something has changed, but they often lack the “outside data.” Pointing out this growth is catalytic: a mere juxtaposition of the old self with the newer self is sometimes all the intervention that is needed.
Once we become aware of our capacity to grow, we grow.
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