Years ago one of my mentors told me it takes great strength to be happy.
At the time she said this, I was very intrigued…..and also very unhappy.
I also stayed very unhappy for a great many years afterwards.
But I never forgot her words.
They compelled me to periodically confront the unhappiness within me, like a journalist intent upon exposing the presence and mechanics of a long-running and very successful scam.
I wanted to know everything about my unhappiness.
In this way, questions like these became a standard part of my daily inner dialogue.
- How did my unhappiness start?
- What perpetuates it?
- Why do I feel so comfortable – if unhappy – in its company?
- What is unhappiness afraid of?
- What would life be like without unhappiness as my constant companion?
- What am I afraid of?
- What is the worst that could happen (if I decided to try for a life with less unhappiness in it?)
Out of this ongoing questioning process, these two key facts have become my most trusted navigators.
- Unhappiness is afraid of….happiness.
- I am also afraid there is no such thing as “happiness” (even though somehow, inexplicably, I totally believe unhappiness exists!)
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