sad feelings make you strongThis month’s edition of “Good News for Eating Disorders Recovery” is now available. I hope you enjoy this month’s inspiring message!

I continue to have sad feelings on a somewhat regular basis, even though I have been in recovery for more than a decade now.

The difference is that today I do not try to shove those feelings down, ignore them or run and hide. Rather, I open the door, open my arms, and welcome them as friends.

Certainly at times sadness can “just happen” – it can be the result of hormonal fluctuation, seasonal shifts, biological imbalance, even empathy with a loved one’s pain.*

But for most of us and most of the time, sadness felt for any of these reasons will be the exception rather than the norm.

As well, in the same way that anger, grief, jealousy, resentment, frustration, loneliness, despair and other so-called “uncomfortable” emotions may visit us because it is in our best interests that they do, sadness frequently comes knocking because it is bearing a message – and gifts.

It has taken me a long, long time – more than 30 years to be exact – to recognize my sad or difficult feelings as friends.

But once I did, I stopped feeling afraid of them. I also stopped feeling afraid of me when I had them.

Rather, I saw that these difficult-to-feel and heal feelings came to reveal to me my own strength and wisdom, my faith and depth of vision for the present and the future.

My sad feelings would never have approached me if I wasn’t strong enough to welcome them and learn what they had to teach me.

It just took me some time to realize this.

Your sad feelings – your uncomfortable, difficult or scary feelings – visit you to deliver this message: YOU ARE STRONG. YOU ARE READY, WILLING and ABLE TO LEARN. YOU HAVE IT IN YOU TO BE AMAZING, TO INSPIRE YOURSELF AND OTHERS WITH YOUR STORY AND YOUR STRENGTH.

Here, at the start of a brand new fresh year, I invite you to take this message deeply to heart.

With great respect and love,


*p.s. Sadness that feels persistent or unmanageable should never be ignored or minimized. Just because you are strong enough to hold and feel sadness does NOT mean you EVER have to or should do it alone!!

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    Last reviewed: 31 Jan 2013

APA Reference
Cutts, S. (2013). Your Sad Feelings Make You Strong. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 27, 2015, from



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