“Whether other people love you is not as important as whether you love you.”
My mentor, Lynn, and I have been working on this one for years.
It is taking so long because it is a concept I am curiously resistant to.
Somehow, despite my best efforts and intentions otherwise, I consistently fail to see the equivalent value my own love has in comparison with the love I want from others, or the love I want to offer others.
Lynn reassures me that I am not the only one who struggles with this.
She finds creative ways to reinforce what we are working on, sometimes suggesting books or movies that bring the concept to life in ways that are now or could someday be parallel to my own.
Sometimes she tells me this is what she is doing. And sometimes she waits for me to figure it out on my own (I’ll give you one guess as to which method takes longer).
And don’t get me wrong here – I like the concept of loving myself. I like it a lot. I just have trouble doing it.