This month we have our long-awaited interview with recovery expert Jenni Schaefer.
Author of “Life Without Ed” and “Goodbye Ed, Hello Me”, Jenni is a much-beloved and sought-after speaker, author…and mentor. In this interview, she shares her insights about her own experiences of being mentored, mentoring others, and learning to fall in love with life. Thanks, Jenni, for visiting us here at “Mentoring and Recovery”.
1. In Goodbye Ed, Hello Me, there is an inspiring chapter called “My Mentee” where you describe being asked to be your nephew Aiden’s mentor for life. How cool! What are some of the wise messages your own mentors have taught you that you want to pass on to Aiden?
In recovery, my mentor, Emily, taught me not to be so hard on myself, that relapses were normal and okay. She also said that I didn’t always have to settle for relapsing. I could ultimately make the decision to get fully better. A key was to have patience and to never, never, never give up. I hope to pass this message of patience and persistence along to Aiden.
2. You mention in the chapter that you have mentors for many different areas of life. I can really relate to this – mentoring has such a wide application. What advice do you have for readers who are interested in finding a mentor for recovery or for other areas of life?
To find a recovery mentor, I, of course, recommend reading your book, Beating Ana, and joining MentorCONNECT! To find mentors in other areas, I encourage people to be open to learning and to ask questions. In my life, I have found that by being open, my mentors have actually found me. I love the old saying, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”
3. One interesting point you bring up that I can really relate to is that some of your mentors may not even know that they are your mentors. Can you share more about this?