Mentoring, Recovery and YOU
We are all recovering from something.
Life. Love. Lack. Loss.
Not to mention all those big and small “oops” moments that linger long after we’ve fled the scene.
But through it all – in the midst of it all even – we rarely (and actually never, I suspect) are without help.
Better yet, most often it is not even a matter of locating a guide to help us get from Point Then to Point Now and beyond.
Rather, it is more simply a matter of becoming aware of the help that is already close at hand so we can then make the choice to accept it.
Case in point – right now, stop and think of one situation where, for a time at least, you really, honestly, thoroughly believed, “No way, no how am I going to get through this one.”
Then think of one or more of the folks who deserve at least partial credit for leading, guiding, or dragging you successfully and safely from then to now.
This is what is called “mentoring”.
Mentoring happens all the time – it happens all around us, and to us, and through us. Most of the time, we probably aren’t even aware of how powerful mentoring is as a force for good, for courage, for positive change in our lives. But still it happens. It happens every moment of every single day.
By becoming aware of the presence of mentors – and also mentees – in our everyday lives, we exponentially expand our opportunity for growth, fulfillment, and JOY through both giving and receiving.
Maximizing our awareness of and ability to participate in that process is what we are going to talk about here.
But before we get started, let’s take a pause to define terms.
The truth is, there are as many definitions for the word “mentoring” as there are mentors and mentees, and that is perfectly okay – awesome, actually!
However, to keep us on at least complementary pages for our purposes here, I propose that we use the following definitions as our go-by guide:
“Mentor”: a trusted guide who has knowledge and experience in a certain area, and is willing and able to share it.
“Mentee”: a person in need of guidance and instruction, who is willing to receive it.
“Mentoring”: the voluntary, ongoing, interactive relationship between mentor and mentee (giver and receiver) for the sole purpose of facilitating progress in life and recovery
Also, a little housekeeping – after each post, you will be invited to explore a “takeaway” – a tangible, practical application for that post’s topic. So, for instance – here’s the takeaway for today:
Today’s Takeaway: Maybe you are already aware of the influence a mentor has had on your life, growth, and self development. Maybe you are even mentoring others as well. But maybe you are also brand new to the concept of mentoring.
Wherever you are in the process, take some time now to jot down the names of five key influences in your life – they can be people, pets, movies, events, even dream insights that have shaped what you cherish most to date about who you are, what you believe in, what you stand for, and your perception of all the possibilities in your own life.
But don’t stop here – make it a practice to add to this list as often as a new mentoring influence crosses your path. Awareness is the first step to openness and then gratitude and the desire to give back out of the abundance of what you have already received and continue to receive from others.
And if you would like to post and recognize a mentor who has had a particular impact on your life, we would love to honor them with you!
Cutts, S. (2010). Mentoring, Recovery and YOU. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 10, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/mentoring-recovery/2010/08/mentoring-recovery-and-you/