How to Spot Narcissistic Personality Disorder

By Helen Nieves

UnknownNarcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is when a person is excessively preoccupied with power, vanity, prestige, and are unable to see the damage they may be causing themselves or others. People with NPD have an exaggerated feeling of self importance, sense of entitlement, and lack empathy.  Those who have NPD believe they are superior and have little regard for other peoples’ feelings. It is rare and to affects more men than women. It often begins in early adulthood. So how can you identify NPD? Below, you will find symptoms, causes, and treatment.

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Do You Have Sensory Processing Disorder?

By Helen Nieves

Sensory Processing Disorder or SPD,  is when the “brain has trouble receiving and responding to information that comes in through our senses” (Web MD). This is usually identified in children but can also be seen in adults. According to Matlen, “SPD is a neurological condition that does not allow for normal processing of stimuli.” Oversensitivity to things in the environment such as loud noises, ticking clocks, strong fragrances, tags on a shirt, etc, can be painful or overwhelming. It can affect one sense or multiple senses. You can either be hypersensitive or hypo-sensitive to sensory stimuli.  If symptoms interfere with your daily life or affect normal functioning you may have SPD.

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Why Do We Stay In An Unhealthy Relationship?

By Helen Nieves

stock-photo-young-couple-having-an-argue-very-stressed-and-fighting-48261061Is love really enough? I often hear people say  “I love him/her” even if their relationship is harmful, abusive or unhealthy. They stay in this relationship for the wrong reasons and sometimes they find it extremely difficult to leave the relationship. Leaving can be more complicated than it seems. There are many reason why men and women stay in an unhealthy relationship. The following will explain some of the reasons why people decide to stay in a harmful relationship.

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Is your Relationship Healthy?

By Helen Nieves

UnknownAre you in a healthy relationship? What does it mean to be in a healthy relationship? What about being in a violent relationship? What are the signs of an unhealthy relationship? Hopefully this post will help answer these questions and help to identify a healthy and unhealthy relationship.

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Social Anxiety

By Helen Nieves

imgresFeeling nervous before a presentation or in some social settings can be normal. But in social anxiety, everyday interactions can cause irrational fear and can hinder you from moving forward. According to Wikipedia, “Social anxiety is a discomfort or a fear when a person is in social interactions that involve a concern about being judged or evaluated by others. It is typically characterized by an intense fear of what others are thinking about them (specifically fear of embarrassment, criticism, or rejection), which results in the individual feeling insecure, not good enough for other people, and/or the assumption that peers will automatically reject them.” Social anxiety can cause impairment with your social interactions and can affect your emotions and behavior. Symptoms, causes and treatment for social anxiety are listed below:

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Understanding Bipolar Disorder

By Helen Nieves

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Manic Depressive Disorder also know as Bipolar Disorder is associated with feelings of hopelessness to feelings of euphoria and full of energy. These mood shifts can occur a couple of times a year or many times a day. It usually develops in late teens to early adulthood. Bipolar disorder is divided into subtypes. They include:

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What is Complicated Grief?

By Helen Nieves

images In order to understand what complicated grief is, it is important to understand what “normal grief” is and the four tasks a grieving person should address in order to adapt to the loss. According to a book published by Worden in 2009, Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy: A Handbook for the Mental Health Practitioner the four tasks a grieving person should address are:

 

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Understanding BPD

By Helen Nieves

imagesBorderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental illness marked by unstable moods, behavior and relationships.  People with BPD feel the same emotions other people do. They do many things that other people do. The difference is that they feel things intensely, act in extreme ways and have difficulty regulating their emotions and behavior.  The following article talks about the causes, symptoms and treatment of BPD.

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Music and ADHD

By Helen Nieves

imgres“Nothing activates the brain so extensively as music,” says Oliver Sacks, M.D., professor of neurology at Columbia University and author of Musicophilia. Traditionally, parents believed that distractors have negative effects for children. “Rather than just assuming it’s better for a child with ADHD to do their homework in complete silence, it may help their concentration to let them listen to music,” Pelham said a Professor in Psychology and Psychiatry and Director for the Center For Children and Families .

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Raising a Child with ADHD

By Helen Nieves

imgresAttention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is a developmental disorder of self control. In a child with ADHD, the executive part of the brain that is supposed to be organizing and controlling behavior, helping the child plan for the future and follow through, is doing a poor job. The child is not suffering from a lack of skills or knowledge, so showing him how to correct his problems will not be much of help. Instead try implementing some of the following  principles listed below to help them show what they know in situations that were previously a problem for them.

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Activities To Help You Feel Good About Yourself

By Helen Nieves

self-esteem-at-workIn a previous post, I wrote about self-esteem and what you can do to build your self-esteem. In this post, I will discuss different activities that you can use to help you feel better about yourself and help reinforce your self-esteem in the long run. Low self esteem may be triggered by your own judgements or by the judgements of others. Low self-esteem keeps you from enjoying your life and working towards goals. It is important to try to implement techniques into your life to help strengthen your self esteem. Some of the techniques listed below will help, and some will not. Read through them and do the ones that are most comfortable to you. It may be helpful to repeat some of the activities over and over again.

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For Parents Who Have Children with ADHD: Taking Care of Yourself

By Helen Nieves

imgresIt is stressful to raise a child with ADHD. It places a lot of demand on you- your mind, body and spirit. These children require a lot of attention and supervision. They can be demanding, defiant, and aggressive. It is important however that you, as a parent, to take care of yourself. You need to replenish emotionally and feel that you have control over your life.

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Trouble Following Directions

By Helen Nieves

imagesWorking memory is the ability to temporarily hold information in one’s head in order to complete a task. It is the active part of mental memory. Those who have weak working memories find it hard to think creatively at the same time they are trying to remember directions for a task. According to Matthew Crugar, PhD, neuropsychologist with the Learning and Diagnostics Center at the Child Mind Institute in New York City, working memory “is a set of skills that helps us keep information in mind while using that information to complete a task or execute a challenge. Working memory helps us stay involved in something longer and keep more things in mind while approaching a task.”

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Helping Children Get Started on Homework and Other Tasks

By Helen Nieves

homework-help-2-467x267Initiation is the ability to recognize independently when it is time to start on something and using one’s resources to do so. The ability to get started on a task is important for school functioning and negotiating daily routine. Children depend on adults to let them know when it is time to begin and end a task. As kids get older, we expect to see a gradual transition from external cues to trigger the start function to internal management of this executive skill.

 

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Anger Management for Children

By Helen Nieves

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Has your child lost their temper? Did your child yell or scream or want to hit something?  Everyone gets angry and when kids are treated unfairly, they try to stand up for themselves by reacting in anger. It is important to teach children what to do and not to do when they are angry. Children have a lot of emotions. Anger is one emotion they feel. It is ok to get angry sometimes but it needs to be released in appropriate ways. Keeping a child’s temper in check can be challenging but

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Vampiristic Behaviors

By Helen Nieves

stock-vector-vampire-s-mouth-6118201I always thought that vampires were fictitious characters that you either read in books or saw on television. After reading an article written by Oppawsky (2010) I am not so sure that vampires exist only in books or seen in a movie. The article I read was on Clinical Vampirism, also known as Renfield’s Syndrome. Renfield’s syndrome is named after Bram Stoker’s Dracula. The character in the book, R. M Renfield, consumed flies, spiders and birds because he thought that by eating the creatures will give him a life force or power.  Similarly, people suffering from this syndrome also believe that by consuming blood will give them power.

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Disputing Thoughts and Generating New Effective Philosophies

By Helen Nieves

imgresIn my previous post, I spoke about REBT and the ABCDE model. In this post I will be discussing (D) Disputing and (E) Effective New Philosophy. Some people do not like the idea of disputing. REBT advocates forceful disputation in order to make change. REBT teaches people to dispute their irrational beliefs. You can increase rational thinking by asking yourself several questions and disputing your thoughts. You need to carefully think through the answers and not parrot through the healthy answers.

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The Power of REBT

By Helen Nieves

imagesRational emotive behavior therapy focuses on the way you think about yourself, the world and others. It is an empowering approach reminding us that we are responsible for the way we think, feel and act. It teaches that irrational thinking leads to unhealthy negative emotions and behaviors. It focuses on the present moment-the “here and now” rather than on the past and how the past has influenced your life. It focuses on your mental wellbeing at the present moment.

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Depression in Men and Women

By Helen Nieves

imgresIn my previous post, I wrote about depression, the signs and symptoms and treatment options. In this post, I will discuss how depression looks different for men and women. Being aware of the differences is important in order for the problem to be recognized and to get the proper help. “While the symptoms used to diagnose depression are the same regardless of gender, often the chief complaint can be different among men and women,” says Ian A. Cook, MD, the Miller Family professor of psychiatry at the University of California–Los Angeles.

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Not Just the Blues

By Helen Nieves

stock-photo-word-cloud-depression-151513799Everyone feels sad sometimes. But depression, major depression, clinical depression or major depressive disorder is a serious illness than just feeling down. Depression is an illness and it gets in the way of your life. It affects the way you feel, behave and think. It could make you feel helpless, hopeless or empty. It makes it tough to function and enjoy your life. Some people describe depression as “living in a black hole.” Whatever the symptoms, depression is different from normal sadness. It robs you from your daily life, ability to work, study, eat, sleep and have fun.

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Learning to Say “No”

By Helen Nieves

stock-vector-no-16887904There is no reason why you have to say “yes” to everything and everyone. By agreeing to do things that you don’t want to shows that you are a people pleaser, which is not a bad trait, but can cause a lot of stress and anxiety. People pleasers think about other people’s needs, worry about what other people want or think before they think about their own needs, or what they want. They rarely do things for themselves and feel guilty when they do. They hold back from saying what they feel or think because they feel that the other person will be upset with them. It is very draining to trying to please others and it can have a detrimental effect on your health often feeling anxious, stressed, worried and unhappy.

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Getting a Good Night’s Sleep

By Helen Nieves

imgresHow you feel when you wake up depends on how well you sleep. Your quality of rest can depend on your sleep schedule, bedtime habits, and day-to-day lifestyle choices. You should first find out how much sleep you need. Sleep requirements vary from person to person. It is recommended that a person should get eight hours of sleep each night to function at their best.

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Natural Ways to Cope with Panic and Anxiety Attacks

By Helen Nieves

stock-photo-illustration-depicting-a-book-with-an-anxiety-concept-title-white-background-124158760Suffering from panic attacks or anxiety attacks are never fun and can be scary if you do not know what they are. This can be an uncomfortable feeling and knowing that it can happen to you again without any warning, can leave you to feel hopeless and helpless. For some, it can be an occasional panic attack where you experience it only in particular situations, while for others it can be frequent and recurring that it prevents you from leaving your home. In my previous blog, I discussed ways to support a person suffering from panic or anxiety attacks, the symptoms of panic and anxiety attacks and also on what panic and anxiety attacks are. In this blog, I want to share with you coping techniques to manage panic or anxiety attacks.

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How to Support a Person with Panic Attacks or Anxiety Attacks:

By Helen Nieves

anxiety-reflib-shutterstock_107773157What is Anxiety and Panic Attacks?

Anxiety is a part of life and normal to experience at some point or another. It’s a normal reaction to stress and can be beneficial in some situations. When you have an anxiety disorder, the anxiety becomes excessive where you have difficulty controlling it and interferes with daily life. The anxiety remains with you for months and can lead to phobias and fears which impact your life. Anxiety continues even after the stressor is gone. It is a fear that is accompanied by feelings of impending doom.

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Poem: Letting Go Takes Love

By Helen Nieves

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I found another poem written by an unknown author. This poem is called Letting Go Takes Love. This poem is about letting go of things that we find difficult to let go of. Often, many clients ask me “how do I let go of things?”  It is difficult to do so, but accepting what you can and cannot change helps to acknowledge the truth of a situation making it easier to let go of things. Holding onto to something might be detrimental to your emotional, mental and physical health. I often say that in order to let go, you need to know the reason why you must do so without compromising your ethics and accepting your decision. To many people letting go stands for cowardliness and a form of weakness. If letting go it is done for the right reason, it can be the best decision that somebody can make.

 
 
 
 

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How to Build Self-Esteem

By Helen Nieves

stock-photo-love-yourself-self-esteem-concept-isolated-text-in-vintage-letterpress-wood-type-102956873Most people feel bad about themselves from time to time. Low self esteem may be triggered by your own judgements or by the judgements of others. Low self-esteem keeps you from enjoying your life and working towards goals. Everyone has the right to feel good about themselves, but it could be difficult when you are dealing with a disability, have pressure at work, have a difficult time getting along with someone you care about, or when someone insults you. You begin to use negative self talk such as “I am no good,” or “I’ll never succeed,” or “nobody likes me.” You begin to believe these statements if you continue to use negative self talk. You may also do hurtful things to yourself or to others.

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10 Steps to Help Beat Procrastination

By Helen Nieves

imgresProcrastination affects everyone to some degree. It can be minor for some, while for others it can cause stress and anxiety. While it is considered normal to some degree, it becomes a problem when it interferes with normal functioning. Chronic procrastination may be a sign of psychological disorder.  There may be a connection to procrastination such as

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Poem: Children Learn What They Live

By Helen Nieves

bikeAs I was cleaning out my desk draw, I came across a poem written by an anonymous writer. I like this poem because it speaks about how children should be raised in order to develop a character that is acceptable to our society.

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Dealing with Teasing and Bullying

By Helen Nieves

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Bullying and teasing is one of the most common problems children face. Although some forms of bullying is obvious, it can result in negative consequences if left undetected for long periods of time. There is a difference between bullying and teasing. Bullying is an act of aggression where the intent is to harm the other person. Motivations for bullying vary. It could be the pleasure of asserting power over the other person or trying to increase their status. Teasing, on the other hand can be a social exchange that can be neutral, friendly or negative. Teasing depends on how the person responds to it. If the child takes it as a joke, it’s a joke. If they take it seriously, it is serious. Teasing unfolds differently for boys and girls. In boys, teasing is done to establish a hierarchy or to get attention. If the victim responds by getting mad or upset, the teasing will usually intensify. If the victim responds by laughing, than usually the teasing stops.  In girls, teasing is done to establish social norms. If a girl gets upset, it does not usually intensify the teasing. As stated in an article written by Nancy Darling, PhD, “the typical response is that most hated of remarks.”

Teasing however can turn into bullying.

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Friendships and ADHD: Helping my child maintain positive friendships

By Helen Nieves

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Having ADD/ADHD may affect the way a child can keep and make friends. Some of the problems that may arise in making friends are impulsivity and restlessness. Their behavior can be unpredictable which can make their peers feel scared in their company. Their impulsivity such as calling out, hitting, snatching things out of their peers hands, etc can seem rude. These children can get into trouble a lot in school and can be viewed by others as “bad kids” and avoided by some of their peers.

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Where is my Child? Learning to put on the brakes

By Helen Nieves

 

boy running away  A lot of children with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder have a hard time controlling their impulses. I like to use this metaphor used by authors Quinn and Stern in their book Putting on the Brakes when I work with parents with impulsive children. I explain to the child that cars have brakes but sometimes they can be weak brakes. In order to make those brakes stronger, he must exercise his brakes and the parents need to help him do that.

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