The Lies We Tell

By Helen Nieves • 1 min read

imagesThe previous post focused on pathological lying. This post will focus on the different types of lies people tell. Lying is a bad habit and can be a big and destructive problem. Let’s identify the different kinds of lies and see if you recognize them. Do you or anyone you know fall into any of these types of lies? Do you know any other types of lies?

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How to Spot a Pathological Liar

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

imagesWe lie once in a while right? We may tell a white lie in order to make the other person feel a little better.  A white lie is harmless and can be considered to be used for a greater good and is often used to prevent from hurting someone. But we may make a false statement with an intent to deceive. When we lie based on a fact, we jeopardize our relationships. The other person will not believe us again and we fog up their perception of reality. So, is it a good idea to lie? When you lie, do you know which style of lie you are choosing? Does it matter? Well, there are different types of lies which will be discussed in a later post. In this post, lets focus on pathological lying.

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Compulsive Gambling

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

Unknown-1According to The National Gambling Impact Study Commission (NGISC)  “gambling addiction affects approximately 2 to 5 percent of Americans.” People who gamble continue to do so despite of financial hardship or legal consequences. The brain of a gambler who is addicted responds in the same way the alcoholic brain responds to a drink. In other words, the more you feed your addiction, the more it will grow. “Pathological gambling is recognized as a medical disorder by the American Psychiatric Association and has elements of addiction similar to alcohol and drug addiction. It describes a gambler who loses control over gambling behavior with damaging personal, social and financial effects. Very often, the pathological gambler suffers from legal problems. Because the gambler is losing control it is referred to by mental health practitioners as an impulse disorder. Pathological gambling is a progressive disease, meaning that the symptoms will get worse over time” (www.library.ca.gov). Impulsivity is an aspect of a person’s personality. People who are impulsive are more prone to gambling because of their personality. The impulse to gamble cannot be controlled. Not all impulsive people will develop gambling problems.

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Setting Limits on Electronics

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

imagesIt is important to establish electronic rules for children. Most children are intrigued by electronics and it is the easiest way to preoccupy them if you need to do something around the house. Most parents however do not know how to set rules and boundaries to limit screen time. A lot of times, I hear parents tell me their child is addicted to screens. They can play video games all day and leave their priorities behind. Parents do not know how to handle the use of screens or how to discipline their child who is constantly on their phone or playing games.

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Self-Soothing

By Helen Nieves • 1 min read

imagesWhen you are upset or stressed, it is important to know positive ways to cope on your own. Finding ways to self-soothe can help you feel at ease when you are dealing with frustration, excitement or having intense emotions. Some of these tips presented below are taken from DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition by Marsh M. Linehan. I also encourage you to add some of your favorite ways to self-soothe. Think of your 5 senses when trying to find positive self-soothing tips to share with us.

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Electronics Negatively Affecting Children

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

Children spend a lot of their time watching television, searching the internet, or texting their friends. Some spend more time on electronic media than they do in school. Spending too much screen time can take away a child’s energy and can lead to isolation.  It is important for parents to monitor how much and how long their children are in front of screens and need to balance their free time with physical activities and social interactions. Don’t get me wrong- technology does serve a purpose. It provides with credible information. But spending time on entertainment media can have serious consequences.

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Caregiver Stress

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

Taking care of someone who needs assistance can be rewarding. But being a caregiver can cause emotional and physical stress. When you provide long term care to someone who has an illness, you may be more vulnerable to sickness, anxiety, medical problems and depression. “Caregivers who devote all their time and energy to a sick spouse or relative tend to forget their own health needs” (Salgado, 2015).  It is important that you, as a caregiver, also take care of yourself physically and mentally. If you don’t take care of yourself, you will not be able to effectively care for someone else. You need to be aware of your own health and well being and be cognizant of the signs of stress. If you are a caregiver, take steps to put your health on tract. Try the following:

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Understanding Trichotillomania

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

 

Trichotillomania or hair pulling is a disorder where a person constantly has the urge to pull their hair from the scalp, eyebrows, beard, legs, arms or other parts of the body. For some, hair pulling can be managed but for others the urge to pull hair is overwhelming. Individuals with this disorder may pull their hair because they are stressed and need to find a way to soothe themselves. It is classified as an impulse control disorder. It can start around the ages of 12 or 13 but it is not uncommon for it to start at a younger or older age. This post will describe the symptoms, causes and treatment options for trichotillomania?

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Control Your Time

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

UnknownNot having control over your time is problematic. It can cause you to feel overloaded, pressured and tense. Time management is the act of planning and exercising control over time spent on activities. It is important to have enough time to complete tasks and also time for yourself to re-charge. It takes time and self-discipline to develop skills to be a better time manager. Time management can be achieved by implementing skills and techniques which can make you have personal pride and achieve life long success. The rewards are great and it takes hard work to break habits of poor time management.

Here are tips to help you be a better time manager.

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Why Should I Forgive?

By Helen Nieves • 1 min read

UnknownWe have all gotten hurt and the wounds can leave you feeling anger or bitter. So why should we forgive the person that hurt us the most? Forgiveness is to let go of resentment. To let go of revenge. To let go of the bitterness inside you. By forgiving, you can learn to find hope, peace and joy.  You learn to let go of the tightness anger has on you and focus on positive parts and things in your life. Letting go and forgiving can make you feel happy and healthier. Forgiving does not mean excusing the act or minimizing the wrong. It means to let go of the anger, sadness and bitterness you have inside for the person. If you stay with the hurtful act and ruminate over it, it can fill you up with hostility and vengeance which can cloud up the positive feelings you have. It can destroy other relationships you may have, become depressed, or prevent you from enjoying the present because you focus too much on the wrong. Think about forgiveness as a way to change your life. It can take away the power the other person has in your life. It can help you to bring peace into your life.

Below are 12 tips written by Judith Belmont, MS (2013) which can help you to better understand why it is important to forgive.

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Meditating for a Healthy Living

By Helen Nieves • 3 min read

UnknownMeditation transforms our mind. Practicing meditation can help develop concentration, awareness,  positivity, clarity, and seeing the true nature of things. It promotes relaxation, compassion, love, patience and forgiveness.

I suggest to my client’s who have anxiety or are stressed to incorporate some form of meditation in their lives. It is simple and can be done anywhere. Whether they are walking, riding the bus, taking the train or waiting at a doctor’s office, they can implement meditation in their lives and promote a healthy well being. There are some meditation techniques I use and provide to my client’s when they are stressed or anxious. I will list them below.

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What is Gender Dysphoria?

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

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Gender dysphoria (Gender Identity Disorder) is used to describe individuals who are dissatisfied with the sex they were born with or with the roles associated with that sex. Individuals who feel that their body does not reflect the gender they were born with can cause severe anxiety, depression or distress. The symptoms can be intense and can interfere with their daily functioning.

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How can Children Overcome Anxiety?

By Helen Nieves • 3 min read

Anxiety is very common and normal emotion that we all experience. If you are a parent of an anxious child, you know what it is like to be a hostage and so does your child. Children who worry too much go to lengths to avoid situations that they perceive as frightening. They ask anxiety related questions and the answers that are provided to them do not offer any relief. The anxiety simply remains in control and cripples them. The anxiety grows and grows. Your child has accustomed to dealing with anxiety in a certain way and changing these patterns will require effort and time from you and your child.

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Yoga and Your Mental Health

By Helen Nieves • 3 min read

Stress is everywhere. Whether you are at work, whether your boss wants the report by tomorrow, whether your partner wants to know what is for dinner, or whether your child is crying- stress is there and if you are constantly under stress your mind and body will pay the price. Doing exercise or finding the best technique to help you to unwind is key to promoting good mental and physical health. I found that yoga was one of the best ways to unwind and reduce my stress. In addition to walking, reading, and doing mild exercises, yoga is something that has helped me to find serenity and to achieve peace in my body and mind. I like yoga because you can do in the comfort of your own home. I especially like Hatha yoga because it is a slower pace style yoga and the movements are easier. Of course, there are many styles of yoga, each having certain forms and intensities. It is your personal preference which style is the right one for you.

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Understanding Anorexia Nervosa

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

stock-photo-doctor-shows-information-on-blackboard-anorexia-nervosa-116318101Anorexia nervosa is an eating disorder where people become concerned about their weight. They try to prevent weight gain and may starve themselves to achieve this. Anorexia nervosa is not about weight, but mostly an unhealthy way to cope with emotional problems. Thinness to them equates to self-worth. According to Wikipedia, “Anorexia nervosa is an eating disorder characterized by immoderate food restriction, inappropriate eating habits or rituals, obsession with having a thin figure, and an irrational fear of weight gain. It is accompanied by a distorted body self-perception, and typically involves excessive weight loss.” It is mostly diagnosed in females than in males. This post will discuss the symptoms, causes and treatment for anorexia nervosa.

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Understanding Agoraphobia

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

UnknownAccording to Wikipedia, “agoraphobia is an anxiety disorder characterized by anxiety in situations where the sufferer perceives certain environments as dangerous or uncomfortable, often due to the environment’s vast openness or crowdedness. These situations include wide-open spaces, as well as uncontrollable social situations such as the possibility of being met in shopping malls, airports and on bridges. Agoraphobia is defined within the DSM-IV TR as a subset of panic disorder, involving the fear of incurring a panic attack in those environments. In the DSM-5, however, agoraphobia is classified as being separate from panic disorder. The sufferer may go to great lengths to avoid those situations, in severe cases becoming unable to leave their home or safe haven.” This can be challenging to treat because people have to confront their fears and most are unwilling to do so. Most are on guard and have developed routines to avoid situations that will cause panic attacks or anxiety. The following blog will disucss symptoms, causes, and treatment.

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Effective vs. Ineffective Communication

By Helen Nieves • 3 min read

imagesWe are social beings. Assertiveness is a style of communication and is the most effective type of the four types of communication. Unfortunately, assertiveness is not used as often as people should. All of us use each of the four styles of communication, and as a result some of our interactions can be unsatisfying and frustrating. The following blog will describe the four styles of communication. Try to think of the time you used each style of communication and how effective it was.

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Managing Anger

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

Do you get into frequent arguments or fights? Do you sometimes have angry outbursts or difficulty controlling your aggressive behavior? Has anger ruined your relationships at work or in your personal life? Do you blame others for your behavior or how you are feeling? Anger is a normal emotion, but when it takes control over you it can have serious consequences in your relationships and health. The following blog will hopefully teach insightful anger management tools where you can gain control over your anger.

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Positive Thinking

By Helen Nieves • 1 min read

Unknown“Positive psychology is the branch of psychology that uses scientific understanding and effective interventions to aid in the achievement of a satisfactory life, rather than merely treating mental illness” (Wikipedia). It focuses on growth and well-being. It centers around making people happier and more productive. It offers strategies to help people develop and build personal strengths such as courage, social skills, honesty, optimism, and hope. Positive psychology is not to replace traditional psychology, or to deny how things go wrong, but to emphasize the importance of how things go right.

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Words of Inspiration

By Helen Nieves • 1 min read

imagesThis is a great poem on loving and accepting yourself. Love who you are and what you do.

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Understanding Schizophrenia

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

imagesAccording to Gloom (2014), “schizophrenia is a devastating mental illness that affects approximately 1% of the adult population in the United States.”   Schizophrenia is a mental disorder in which people find it difficult to tell the difference between real and unreal experiences. A person may think illogically and may have abnormal emotional responses. Schizophrenia may result in hallucinations, delusions or disoriented thinking and behavior (these are known as positive symptoms), and social withdrawal, anhedonia, blunting emotion (these are known as negative symptoms).  It occurs in equal rates among men and women. In men, symptoms usually begin early to mid 20’s. In women, symptoms usually begin in the late 20’s. The illness develops slowly and may not be noticeable at first.

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Motivational Poem

By Helen Nieves • 1 min read

imagesNumerous poems have been written through the ages. Some have been recited because they have motivated someone and is the underlying component of someone’s success story.   I found this motivational poem and thought that it is a poem we should live by. It has motivated me in many ways- to live life day by day and to savor every moment of it; to take chances and to learn and grow from them even if it was the wrong choice to make; and to not take things for granted. This poem is written by an unknown author and I hope that you will enjoy the poem as much as I did.

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Strength and Courage: Lessons for the Abuser

By Helen Nieves • Less than a min read

stock-photo-close-up-of-whipped-blond-female-holding-her-finger-showing-to-keep-silent-161908886This is a poem I found while searching for more information on abuse to write in my post. The site is www.drirene.com which focuses on abuse. It has many articles to read and has helped and educated those interested in learning about abuse. Check it out for yourself.

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A Self-Esteem Poem

By Helen Nieves • 1 min read

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I found this poem from an Unknown Author.

 

Let go of the “shoulds” in your life

Open up the miracle of now

Value your uniqueness

Explore your dream and passions

 

Yield to life-go with the flow

Obey the voice of your Spirit

Unwind-get cozy and comfy

Renew yourself-body and soul

Surround yourself with caring people

Express yourself-be true to you

Linger longer at what you enjoy

Feel God’s special love for you

 

A couple of thoughts as I was reading this poem: It is important to enjoy what you have now. Not to get caught up between the past and future because you will not enjoy the things of the “now.” We are all human and we all make mistakes. Looking back on what we did and what we “should” have done can prevent us from looking at the present.  We are all unique and we bring something different to this world. Somebody will give you advice from their unique perspective and you can value that uniqueness. All experiences you had is a unique aspect of yourself. It is important to take care of yourself; to pamper yourself; to unwind and relax; to love yourself; to do things that you enjoy and to maintain a healthy life.  If you can learn to apply the beauty of life, it can give you a sense of peace and pleasure. It is also important to express yourself and to value your feelings and thoughts. True understanding happens when there is communication. When you express yourself it makes it more concrete.

What are your thoughts?

 

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How to Spot Narcissistic Personality Disorder

By Helen Nieves • 1 min read

UnknownNarcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is when a person is excessively preoccupied with power, vanity, prestige, and are unable to see the damage they may be causing themselves or others. People with NPD have an exaggerated feeling of self importance, sense of entitlement, and lack empathy.  Those who have NPD believe they are superior and have little regard for other peoples’ feelings. It is rare and to affects more men than women. It often begins in early adulthood. So how can you identify NPD? Below, you will find symptoms, causes, and treatment.

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Do You Have Sensory Processing Disorder?

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

Sensory Processing Disorder or SPD,  is when the “brain has trouble receiving and responding to information that comes in through our senses” (Web MD). This is usually identified in children but can also be seen in adults. According to Matlen, “SPD is a neurological condition that does not allow for normal processing of stimuli.” Oversensitivity to things in the environment such as loud noises, ticking clocks, strong fragrances, tags on a shirt, etc, can be painful or overwhelming. It can affect one sense or multiple senses. You can either be hypersensitive or hypo-sensitive to sensory stimuli.  If symptoms interfere with your daily life or affect normal functioning you may have SPD.

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Why Do We Stay In An Unhealthy Relationship?

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

stock-photo-young-couple-having-an-argue-very-stressed-and-fighting-48261061Is love really enough? I often hear people say  “I love him/her” even if their relationship is harmful, abusive or unhealthy. They stay in this relationship for the wrong reasons and sometimes they find it extremely difficult to leave the relationship. Leaving can be more complicated than it seems. There are many reason why men and women stay in an unhealthy relationship. The following will explain some of the reasons why people decide to stay in a harmful relationship.

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Is your Relationship Healthy?

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

UnknownAre you in a healthy relationship? What does it mean to be in a healthy relationship? What about being in a violent relationship? What are the signs of an unhealthy relationship? Hopefully this post will help answer these questions and help to identify a healthy and unhealthy relationship.

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Social Anxiety

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

imgresFeeling nervous before a presentation or in some social settings can be normal. But in social anxiety, everyday interactions can cause irrational fear and can hinder you from moving forward. According to Wikipedia, “Social anxiety is a discomfort or a fear when a person is in social interactions that involve a concern about being judged or evaluated by others. It is typically characterized by an intense fear of what others are thinking about them (specifically fear of embarrassment, criticism, or rejection), which results in the individual feeling insecure, not good enough for other people, and/or the assumption that peers will automatically reject them.” Social anxiety can cause impairment with your social interactions and can affect your emotions and behavior. Symptoms, causes and treatment for social anxiety are listed below:

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Understanding Bipolar Disorder

By Helen Nieves • 1 min read

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Manic Depressive Disorder also know as Bipolar Disorder is associated with feelings of hopelessness to feelings of euphoria and full of energy. These mood shifts can occur a couple of times a year or many times a day. It usually develops in late teens to early adulthood. Bipolar disorder is divided into subtypes. They include:

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What is Complicated Grief?

By Helen Nieves • 3 min read

images In order to understand what complicated grief is, it is important to understand what “normal grief” is and the four tasks a grieving person should address in order to adapt to the loss. According to a book published by Worden in 2009, Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy: A Handbook for the Mental Health Practitioner the four tasks a grieving person should address are:

 

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Understanding BPD

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

imagesBorderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental illness marked by unstable moods, behavior and relationships.  People with BPD feel the same emotions other people do. They do many things that other people do. The difference is that they feel things intensely, act in extreme ways and have difficulty regulating their emotions and behavior.  The following article talks about the causes, symptoms and treatment of BPD.

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Music and ADHD

By Helen Nieves • 1 min read

imgres“Nothing activates the brain so extensively as music,” says Oliver Sacks, M.D., professor of neurology at Columbia University and author of Musicophilia. Traditionally, parents believed that distractors have negative effects for children. “Rather than just assuming it’s better for a child with ADHD to do their homework in complete silence, it may help their concentration to let them listen to music,” Pelham said a Professor in Psychology and Psychiatry and Director for the Center For Children and Families .

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Raising a Child with ADHD

By Helen Nieves • 4 min read

imgresAttention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is a developmental disorder of self control. In a child with ADHD, the executive part of the brain that is supposed to be organizing and controlling behavior, helping the child plan for the future and follow through, is doing a poor job. The child is not suffering from a lack of skills or knowledge, so showing him how to correct his problems will not be much of help. Instead try implementing some of the following  principles listed below to help them show what they know in situations that were previously a problem for them.

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Activities To Help You Feel Good About Yourself

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

self-esteem-at-workIn a previous post, I wrote about self-esteem and what you can do to build your self-esteem. In this post, I will discuss different activities that you can use to help you feel better about yourself and help reinforce your self-esteem in the long run. Low self esteem may be triggered by your own judgements or by the judgements of others. Low self-esteem keeps you from enjoying your life and working towards goals. It is important to try to implement techniques into your life to help strengthen your self esteem. Some of the techniques listed below will help, and some will not. Read through them and do the ones that are most comfortable to you. It may be helpful to repeat some of the activities over and over again.

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For Parents Who Have Children with ADHD: Taking Care of Yourself

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

imgresIt is stressful to raise a child with ADHD. It places a lot of demand on you- your mind, body and spirit. These children require a lot of attention and supervision. They can be demanding, defiant, and aggressive. It is important however that you, as a parent, to take care of yourself. You need to replenish emotionally and feel that you have control over your life.

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Trouble Following Directions

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

imagesWorking memory is the ability to temporarily hold information in one’s head in order to complete a task. It is the active part of mental memory. Those who have weak working memories find it hard to think creatively at the same time they are trying to remember directions for a task. According to Matthew Crugar, PhD, neuropsychologist with the Learning and Diagnostics Center at the Child Mind Institute in New York City, working memory “is a set of skills that helps us keep information in mind while using that information to complete a task or execute a challenge. Working memory helps us stay involved in something longer and keep more things in mind while approaching a task.”

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Helping Children Get Started on Homework and Other Tasks

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

homework-help-2-467x267Initiation is the ability to recognize independently when it is time to start on something and using one’s resources to do so. The ability to get started on a task is important for school functioning and negotiating daily routine. Children depend on adults to let them know when it is time to begin and end a task. As kids get older, we expect to see a gradual transition from external cues to trigger the start function to internal management of this executive skill.

 

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Anger Management for Children

By Helen Nieves • 4 min read

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Has your child lost their temper? Does your child yell or scream or want to hit something?  Everyone gets angry and when kids are treated unfairly, they try to stand up for themselves by reacting in anger. It is important to teach children what to do and not to do when they are angry. Children have a lot of emotions. Anger is one emotion they feel. It is ok to get angry sometimes but it needs to be released in appropriate ways. Keeping a child’s temper in check can be challenging but

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Vampiristic Behaviors

By Helen Nieves • 1 min read

stock-vector-vampire-s-mouth-6118201I always thought that vampires were fictitious characters that you either read in books or saw on television. After reading an article written by Oppawsky (2010) I am not so sure that vampires exist only in books or seen in a movie. The article I read was on Clinical Vampirism, also known as Renfield’s Syndrome. Renfield’s syndrome is named after Bram Stoker’s Dracula. The character in the book, R. M Renfield, consumed flies, spiders and birds because he thought that by eating the creatures will give him a life force or power.  Similarly, people suffering from this syndrome also believe that by consuming blood will give them power.

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Disputing Thoughts and Generating New Effective Philosophies

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

imgresIn my previous post, I spoke about REBT and the ABCDE model. In this post I will be discussing (D) Disputing and (E) Effective New Philosophy. Some people do not like the idea of disputing. REBT advocates forceful disputation in order to make change. REBT teaches people to dispute their irrational beliefs. You can increase rational thinking by asking yourself several questions and disputing your thoughts. You need to carefully think through the answers and not parrot through the healthy answers.

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The Power of REBT

By Helen Nieves • 4 min read

imagesRational emotive behavior therapy focuses on the way you think about yourself, the world and others. It is an empowering approach reminding us that we are responsible for the way we think, feel and act. It teaches that irrational thinking leads to unhealthy negative emotions and behaviors. It focuses on the present moment-the “here and now” rather than on the past and how the past has influenced your life. It focuses on your mental wellbeing at the present moment.

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Depression in Men and Women

By Helen Nieves • 3 min read

imgresIn my previous post, I wrote about depression, the signs and symptoms and treatment options. In this post, I will discuss how depression looks different for men and women. Being aware of the differences is important in order for the problem to be recognized and to get the proper help. “While the symptoms used to diagnose depression are the same regardless of gender, often the chief complaint can be different among men and women,” says Ian A. Cook, MD, the Miller Family professor of psychiatry at the University of California–Los Angeles.

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Not Just the Blues

By Helen Nieves • 3 min read

stock-photo-word-cloud-depression-151513799Everyone feels sad sometimes. But depression, major depression, clinical depression or major depressive disorder is a serious illness than just feeling down. Depression is an illness and it gets in the way of your life. It affects the way you feel, behave and think. It could make you feel helpless, hopeless or empty. It makes it tough to function and enjoy your life. Some people describe depression as “living in a black hole.” Whatever the symptoms, depression is different from normal sadness. It robs you from your daily life, ability to work, study, eat, sleep and have fun.

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Learning to Say “No”

By Helen Nieves • 3 min read

stock-vector-no-16887904There is no reason why you have to say “yes” to everything and everyone. By agreeing to do things that you don’t want to shows that you are a people pleaser, which is not a bad trait, but can cause a lot of stress and anxiety. People pleasers think about other people’s needs, worry about what other people want or think before they think about their own needs, or what they want. They rarely do things for themselves and feel guilty when they do. They hold back from saying what they feel or think because they feel that the other person will be upset with them. It is very draining to trying to please others and it can have a detrimental effect on your health often feeling anxious, stressed, worried and unhappy.

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Getting a Good Night’s Sleep

By Helen Nieves • 3 min read

imgresHow you feel when you wake up depends on how well you sleep. Your quality of rest can depend on your sleep schedule, bedtime habits, and day-to-day lifestyle choices. You should first find out how much sleep you need. Sleep requirements vary from person to person. It is recommended that a person should get eight hours of sleep each night to function at their best.

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Natural Ways to Cope with Panic and Anxiety Attacks

By Helen Nieves • 6 min read

stock-photo-illustration-depicting-a-book-with-an-anxiety-concept-title-white-background-124158760Suffering from panic attacks or anxiety attacks are never fun and can be scary if you do not know what they are. This can be an uncomfortable feeling and knowing that it can happen to you again without any warning, can leave you to feel hopeless and helpless. For some, it can be an occasional panic attack where you experience it only in particular situations, while for others it can be frequent and recurring that it prevents you from leaving your home. In my previous blog, I discussed ways to support a person suffering from panic or anxiety attacks, the symptoms of panic and anxiety attacks and also on what panic and anxiety attacks are. In this blog, I want to share with you coping techniques to manage panic or anxiety attacks.

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How to Support a Person with Panic Attacks or Anxiety Attacks:

By Helen Nieves • 3 min read

anxiety-reflib-shutterstock_107773157What is Anxiety and Panic Attacks?

Anxiety is a part of life and normal to experience at some point or another. It’s a normal reaction to stress and can be beneficial in some situations. When you have an anxiety disorder, the anxiety becomes excessive where you have difficulty controlling it and interferes with daily life. The anxiety remains with you for months and can lead to phobias and fears which impact your life. Anxiety continues even after the stressor is gone. It is a fear that is accompanied by feelings of impending doom.

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Poem: Letting Go Takes Love

By Helen Nieves • 1 min read

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I found another poem written by an unknown author. This poem is called Letting Go Takes Love. This poem is about letting go of things that we find difficult to let go of. Often, many clients ask me “how do I let go of things?”  It is difficult to do so, but accepting what you can and cannot change helps to acknowledge the truth of a situation making it easier to let go of things. Holding onto to something might be detrimental to your emotional, mental and physical health. I often say that in order to let go, you need to know the reason why you must do so without compromising your ethics and accepting your decision. To many people letting go stands for cowardliness and a form of weakness. If letting go it is done for the right reason, it can be the best decision that somebody can make.

 
 
 
 

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How to Build Self-Esteem

By Helen Nieves • 4 min read

stock-photo-love-yourself-self-esteem-concept-isolated-text-in-vintage-letterpress-wood-type-102956873Most people feel bad about themselves from time to time. Low self esteem may be triggered by your own judgements or by the judgements of others. Low self-esteem keeps you from enjoying your life and working towards goals. Everyone has the right to feel good about themselves, but it could be difficult when you are dealing with a disability, have pressure at work, have a difficult time getting along with someone you care about, or when someone insults you. You begin to use negative self talk such as “I am no good,” or “I’ll never succeed,” or “nobody likes me.” You begin to believe these statements if you continue to use negative self talk. You may also do hurtful things to yourself or to others.

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10 Steps to Help Beat Procrastination

By Helen Nieves • 2 min read

imgresProcrastination affects everyone to some degree. It can be minor for some, while for others it can cause stress and anxiety. While it is considered normal to some degree, it becomes a problem when it interferes with normal functioning. Chronic procrastination may be a sign of psychological disorder.  There may be a connection to procrastination such as

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Poem: Children Learn What They Live

By Helen Nieves • Less than a min read

bikeAs I was cleaning out my desk draw, I came across a poem written by an anonymous writer. I like this poem because it speaks about how children should be raised in order to develop a character that is acceptable to our society.

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Dealing with Teasing and Bullying

By Helen Nieves • 4 min read

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Bullying and teasing is one of the most common problems children face. Although some forms of bullying is obvious, it can result in negative consequences if left undetected for long periods of time. There is a difference between bullying and teasing. Bullying is an act of aggression where the intent is to harm the other person. Motivations for bullying vary. It could be the pleasure of asserting power over the other person or trying to increase their status. Teasing, on the other hand can be a social exchange that can be neutral, friendly or negative. Teasing depends on how the person responds to it. If the child takes it as a joke, it’s a joke. If they take it seriously, it is serious. Teasing unfolds differently for boys and girls. In boys, teasing is done to establish a hierarchy or to get attention. If the victim responds by getting mad or upset, the teasing will usually intensify. If the victim responds by laughing, than usually the teasing stops.  In girls, teasing is done to establish social norms. If a girl gets upset, it does not usually intensify the teasing. As stated in an article written by Nancy Darling, PhD, “the typical response is that most hated of remarks.”

Teasing however can turn into bullying.

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Friendships and ADHD: Helping my child maintain positive friendships

By Helen Nieves • 3 min read

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Having ADD/ADHD may affect the way a child can keep and make friends. Some of the problems that may arise in making friends are impulsivity and restlessness. Their behavior can be unpredictable which can make their peers feel scared in their company. Their impulsivity such as calling out, hitting, snatching things out of their peers hands, etc can seem rude. These children can get into trouble a lot in school and can be viewed by others as “bad kids” and avoided by some of their peers.

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Where is my Child? Learning to put on the brakes

By Helen Nieves • 3 min read

 

boy running away  A lot of children with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder have a hard time controlling their impulses. I like to use this metaphor used by authors Quinn and Stern in their book Putting on the Brakes when I work with parents with impulsive children. I explain to the child that cars have brakes but sometimes they can be weak brakes. In order to make those brakes stronger, he must exercise his brakes and the parents need to help him do that.

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