10 Aphorisms: What did your parents tell you?

By Erica Loberg

There are some saying that stay with you throughout your life. Whether you used them with your friends growing up, or found insight from your parents, here is a list of some sayings that have always stayed with me, and have helped me throughout different times in my life:

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  1. Don’t be afraid to say no, when the others say go
  2. Stay low and drive hard
  3. If at first you don’t succeed, you’re doing it wrong
  4. You can pick your fingers, you can pick your toes, but you can’t pick your relatives
  5. A moment on the lips, a lifetime on the hips
  6. Show me a good loser, and I’ll show you a loser
  7. Be yourself, it’s who you do best
  8. No means no!
  9. Eat it today, wear it tomorrow
  10. The early bird catches the worm 

 What did your parents tell you?



The Doctor’s Note

By Erica Loberg

shutterstock_159928418I went to the doctor for my foot recently. I sprained it thinking I was Michael Jackson dancing in my room and I needed a doctor’s note to take a couple days off from work. I have never been to a doctor. I have a psychiatrist and a gynecologist but as far as a regular doctor, no.

“Please step on the scale.” Ah.. what? No I don’t weigh myself.

“I’m cool.” By the look on the nurse’s face I knew I wasn’t getting out of it.

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90210, Sex and the City: Reading the signs of depression

By Erica Loberg

90210..What

You know you have problems and you might be depressed when you are watching Sex and The City reruns (2008) and Beverly Hills 90201 reruns (2009). The numbers are not when anything aired but when I was lost in depression and watched it.

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My Cat Has Fat Cheeks: How Learned Behavior Effected My Adulthood

By Erica Loberg

The Fat ManMy fat cat cries in the middle of the night and it drives me crazy and all he wants is food. I’m not home during the day so feel bad like he is starving or something so leave him food, come home and he cries so give him food, then go to sleep and he starts to cry again and the only way to stop him is the feed him. It’s terrible.

Growing up my parents had a hard time saying no to my sisters and I, and food was never sparse in the house. If I wanted something I’d cry and, most of the time, my Mom would give in and give me whatever I wanted.

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The Rebound: The Post Relationship Relationship

By Erica Loberg

shutterstock_78391027When a relationship fails, and you find yourself back out there, sometimes it is hard to decipher if your next relationship is a rebound. It’s not like you can put a clock on when a rebound is a rebound, or when it’s not? You break up and you’re alone for two months? A year? Seven days? Does it depend on how long you were in that previous relationship, or, does the intensity of a relationship determine how much times it takes to get over it? There are no clear answers to these questions, but recently I considered the idea of what constitutes a rebound. Sounds confusing, it is.

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Understanding Quasi Depression

By Erica Loberg

shutterstock_158393051Depression rears its ugly head in all shapes and sizes. Sometimes our depression isn’t obvious. You don’t have to be stuck in bed for days to be considered depressed. Unfortunately we don’t always know we are in a quasi depression until it’s over, and we look back and recall the signs that we might have missed. Hind sight is always 20/20 but if you pay attention to slight changes in your behavior you might be able to better manage your mental health.

I was quasi depressed about a year ago. The quasi depression was written all over my body. I found myself wearing the same clothes everyday: torn jeans with a rotation of the same shirt just in different colors. I stopped keeping up with personal maintenance like waxing my eyebrows or plucking unwanted hairs.

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Dating A Phone

By Erica Loberg

shutterstock_135451880When you enter a new relationship and aspects that were negative in your old relationship slip over to your new one, some might call you “damaged goods.” I’ve experienced this recently with something that affects a lot of people: The Phone.

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Living With Extreme Behavior

By Erica Loberg

shutterstock_189637469Before I was diagnosed with hypomania I lived a life of extremism. I found myself running around like a Tasmanian devil, however, once I was diagnosed and properly medicated I really didn’t have excuses to do anything so excessively anymore. But, sometimes behavior doesn’t change despite medication to help curb symptoms. Does it come done to intensity that accompanies mania, or am I just exercising a behavior that is simply a part of my personality; a behavior that no pill can manage or reduce.

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You Are Mentally Ill Vs. You Have a Mental Illness: Knowing the Difference

By Erica Loberg

coatYou are something or you have something. What is the difference and what does that mean to you and the world we live in? How do people respond to language that communicates a mental illness and what is the difference between you are X or you have X? For example, I am diagnosed with Bipolar II. Some people say “Oh you have manic depression” or “Oh you are manic depressive.” Recently, I pondered this slight twist of diction in a sentence because there is a difference. When someone says you ARE something it tends to define you. You tend to think of yourself as the disease when really it is simply one aspect amongst a long list of attributes that constitute our being.

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20 Things That Cause Anxiety

By Erica Loberg

blue_shirtWhether it is big or small, most of us experience anxiety. It can be a long dark anxious cloud or a short moment of piercing anxiousness but, whatever form it takes, it’s terrible.

Here are 20 things that cause me anxiety: 

  1. The clock when I am trying to fall asleep
  2. Family events when I don’t feel like myself
  3. Skipping the gym
  4. Searching for my keys
  5. Running into my ex
  6. Checking to make sure the door is locked
  7. Taking a test
  8. Running a red light
  9. Public speaking
  10. Attending a funeral
  11. Being low on toilet paper
  12. Forgetting a birthday
  13. Thinking I forgot to turn off the stove
  14. Being low on gas
  15. Being called in to speak with the boss
  16. Getting bills in the mail I know I haven’t paid
  17. Waiting too long to take out the trash
  18. Checking my email when I haven’t in awhile
  19. Committing to something weeks in advance
  20. Forgetting to take my meds

 

What causes you anxiety?

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