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Fear + Anxiety = Insomnia

Tuesday, February 24th, 2015

sleepless240Recently I was watching an interview featuring Tupac Shakur from jail called “Uncensored and Uncut: The Lost Prison Tapes.” The interviewer discussed gangs in America, and how gang violence affected his life and those the he believed turned on him. Tupac stated:

“Fear is stronger than love, fear is stronger than love. Remember that.”

I don’t know if I agree with this comment but, it had me thinking about fear and in whatever capacity, how fear affects our lives. Having given some thought to this statement, in my experience, fear feeds anxiety.

Fear is defined as “An unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.”


Suicide Awareness at the Oscars

Monday, February 23rd, 2015

suicide240The Oscars are watched by millions of viewers. Last night I was cooking and listening to the Oscars in the background and stopped when the award given for the best documentary short went to “Crisis Hotline.” One of the Producer’s, Dana Perry, and one of the recipients of the award, had something to say about suicide when she dedicated the award to her son:

“I want to dedicate this to my son Evan Perry. We lost him to suicide. We should talk about suicide out loud. This is for him.”


What Do You Do When Your Day Starts Off Bad

Wednesday, February 11th, 2015

alarmclock240I started this exercise a few weeks ago. Every morning I sit at my desk and write down positive affirmations. For example:

You are a positive person

You are a positive person

You are a positive person

You are a positive person

I pick a sentence and write it over and over and it is my mantra for the day. Sometimes I sit down and struggle to come up with my sentence for the day. Not today! Today I woke up and for no reason whatsoever things went array. I struggled hooking my bra and when I finally gave up and hooked it in the front and struggled to move it around my body to the back, I realized it was twisted in the middle. The irritability that accompanies my hypomania set in and I felt the wave of anger penetrate my mind. So, I took a moment and told myself to breath.

Then, I went to get dressed and saw my dirty workout clothes on my dresser and thought to myself, I know I bought two sports bras at Target, and realized I hadn’t used the other one yet. The brand new clean one. I started to search my closet and couldn’t locate it. Mind you, I was getting late and would be late to work so stopped myself and assured myself I could look for it when I got home. Why today of all days did I have to find it? No idea. Again, I took a deep breath and stepped away from my closet.


Why I Can’t, and Don’t, Build Things

Wednesday, February 4th, 2015

lightbulbs240I think it is super sexy when a guy can fix things, and build things. The new generation is not as handy as the baby boomers are, and I’m sure more single women are learning how to manage things around their house which is great. I can screw in a light bulb. That’s pretty much it. I want to move my bed tonight and think I can manage that.

One of my super fixer friends once said I’m not handy cause I don’t try. That is true but, when I think back to my childhood I recall when I tried to fix something and I would get so irritated and frustrated and impatient that my anger would overcome by ability to have reason and make it through the project. Some may think if it as giving up or say I am a quitter. This is true, however, was it truly worth the angst that would overcome my emotions and my mind? My inability to handle basic things like pulling out a splinter would drive me over the edge, not to mention how my oversensitive response to things probably drove my family over the edge.


Rand Paul: Normal vs. Abnormal

Monday, February 2nd, 2015

randpaul240A recent article in the Huffington Post called “Rand Paul: Children Got ‘Profound Mental Disorders’ After Receiving Vaccinations” quotes Paul stating:

“I’ve heard of many tragic cases of walking, talking, normal children, who wound up with profound mental disorders after vaccines.

What? “Tragic cases” and mental illness is seen in an abnormal child that doesn’t walk or talk like a normal one is his education on mental health, and he has a political platform to do so? Who are writing these speeches? I guess it doesn’t matter cause despite the fact he probably didn’t write it, he said it. In this debate, Paul allowing parents more choice in the vaccination of their children; calling it a matter of “freedom.” He then goes on to saying he had personal knowledge of kids “who wound up with profound mental disorders” after receiving immunizations for diseases like Hepatitis B and measles.


This or That: The psychiatrist meets the therapist

Saturday, January 31st, 2015

mentalking240I should have known it was coming. My psychiatrist recommended me the therapist I’m working with which has been an amazing experience. I tend to tell more to my therapist then my psychiatrist which is stupid, and weird, cause one is prescribing my medication while the other one is… I’m still new to therapy so won’t say something that doesn’t speak to its worth. It is worth a lot.

“If it is alright with you I’d like to speak to Dr. X.” He handed me release papers.

“What are you going to talk about?”

“Nothing you mentioned that you don’t want me to talk about.” I already said there were subjects I was not willing to discuss with my psychiatrist, which I will not divulge here, but he respectfully acknowledged my sensitively to it, and knew those subjects were off limits.

“Ok. Great.” I signed the paper. 


14 Of My Bad Habits: Write About Your Worse Habits

Friday, January 23rd, 2015

cheese240As a creature of habit, I know I have a routine that has its rotten apples. Despite our differences, and illnesses, we all have our vices or habits we hate but engage in regardless.

Here is a list of my 14 worse habits as a hypo manic person:

  1. I fake phone calls when I walk by someone that I don’t want to talk to
  2. I interrupt people all the time, and know it, but still do it
  3. I overdue everything in my life from eating, to working out, to emotional outbursts
  4. I eat cheese, every day, and every meal
  5. I don’t like being tied down so don’t wear a watch and prefer to be naked most of the time
  6. I listen to music so loud to match my brain that I’m sure the neighbors hear it but, are too kind to complain
  7. I check my points of departure I like to call it: Do I have an anklebone? A collar bone” A wrist bone” Am I still skinny? Pathetic habit, but true.
  8. I sprinkle salt on my salad
  9. I graze the buffet at Whole Foods instead of buying it
  10. I pretend I don’t bite my nails
  11. I feel a surge of anger when I put my shoes down and the right falls on the left and the left falls on the right
  12. I don’t honk enough when some jerk scribbles outside the car lanes
  13. I pluck my moustache in pain versus getting it all done in one threading
  14. “I bite the heads off of live chickens in the middle of the night.” Ren aka Kevin Bacon (I watch the movie Footloose way too much and listen to the Top Gun soundtrack when I work out all the time.)

Ok… not so bad but…. what are your bad habits?

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Side Effects & My Sex Drive

Thursday, January 22nd, 2015

womanonbed240I always said that once I get said effects from any medication I am done. Off. Out. Period. The three top side effects I refuse to live with are: weight gain, a tremor, and a loss of sex drive. But, for the first time in the decade that I’ve been on different meds with an array of side effects, I am letting the lack of a sex drive go. Why? Weird.

To be honest, I didn’t even realize that my sex drive had diminished until I was cleaning up my apartment and found my vibrator under my bed. And I asked myself, “When is the last time I used that?!” For weeks masturbation never even crossed my mind. I chalked it up to the fact that I had no man in my life or steady relationship, I have sworn off dating for a while, and one night stands are not my thing, so somehow I managed to forget that my sex drive was gone.


Sweating the Big Stuff: 10 Things to consider when you find yourself in a sweat

Tuesday, January 20th, 2015

sweating

Most of us have heard the saying “Don’t sweat the small stuff.” Rarely do we hear “Don’t sweat the big stuff”; it sounds like an oxymoron. I locked myself out of my apartment today. I was either going to call the building manager, or deal with it when I got home from work. Knowing that, I knew I would spend the day on and off thinking about the fact I didn’t have access to my place. Now is that big stuff, or small stuff?


Being Social: In-Q

Sunday, January 18th, 2015

audienceI was given a ticket for a live poetry show for Christmas. It was a gift. It was s ticket with a price tag on it so, I had to go. I don’t recall the last time I went to a social event where I went to will call, got my ticket, took my seat, and found myself surrounded by people; people from all walks of life.


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