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feetAbsolutely, especially for women.  Let’s face it, when you get real close to having an orgasm during sex with our partner, it can be disappointing and/or frustrating if your partner climaxes before you, and you are left high and dry. 

Here are 6 reasons for women to masturbate after sex:

  1. Why not?  It can feel like a wasted effort. You put in the work to get there, so finish what you started right?
  2. Similarly, he put in some time.  He tried to get you there.  Don’t let his efforts fall short.
  3. Pragmatics. It’s easier to reach a climax with sex as a precursor, then having to start over from scratch on your own.
  4. It’s only fair. All can be fair in love and sex.  It’s only fair to you to finish the act or really, what’s the point? (The act of sex is great, but, let’s cross the finish line ok.)
  5. Cause it’s healthy.  Your body and mind expect results so, don’t be a sex tease to yourself.
  6. Cause you deserve it!

When it comes to a discussion on female masturbation, often times it can be met with an awkward silence, or be a foreign conversation.  I expect the mere idea of women masturbating after sex will have a backlash. Question is, do we tell our partner, or would that emasculate them?  How does it affect the dynamics of a relationship?  It depends on the couple.  

It also depends on how a woman feels about masturbation to begin with. No matter what your stance may be on the matter, honesty with yourself is a good place to start.

Feet in bed image available from Shutterstock.

 


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    Last reviewed: 20 Jun 2013

APA Reference
Loberg, E. (2013). Masturbation After Sex, For Women – Is it okay?. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 21, 2014, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/manic-depression/2013/06/19/masturbation-after-sex-for-women-is-it-okay/

 

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