The Stay at Home Dad – The Double Standard Continues
Women have been met with double standards for a long time. They are expected to have a career and be a super mom, and seem to have a harder problem finding a mate unless they are double degreed and can cough up a decent income yet, are expected to drop everything when they get married and start a family.
Now, we seem to have a whole new double standard among us. The Stay at Home Dad aka SAHD. No problem! That’s awesome! You are so great to stay at home with your kids!
But wait, women that want to be a stay at home mom are frowned upon? Yes, in most cases they are. Just like the double standard women face to be a supermom and have a successful career, women are not given the same reaction and attitude that a stay at home man seems to enjoy.
Why is that? How is it possible that we celebrate STHD’s and sing a different tune when it comes to STHM’s?
Maybe all these double standards started with our patriarchal society, and somehow we never managed to free ourselves of that ideology so, opinions are still implemented and carried out by men so, of course if a man wants to stay home it’s alright. It’s welcomed.
Women’s opinions matter, and the only way to curb a double standard is to stop buying into it. Stop frowning on women that want to stay home and be a primary caregiver, stop cheering for men that want to stay at home and be the caregiver. It seems to be all out of whack. And our attempt to progress as a society of equals doesn’t seem to be apparent very much in the household department.
What do you think of the SAHD? Doesn’t he seem to get a break?
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Loberg, E. (2013). The Stay at Home Dad – The Double Standard Continues. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 31, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/manic-depression/2013/05/14/the-stay-at-home-dad-let-the-double-standard-continue/