Living in Emotional Limbo – 3 Steps to Get Out!
Often times we get so caught up in the daily grind and routine of our lives that we don’t realize that we might feel stuck, but, when we do have moments were we think to ourselves “What am I doing?” it is important to grab onto those opportunities and find ways to release yourself from your stagnant ways.
Here are 3 steps to help get you out of emotional limbo:
1. Open your mouth – Sometimes we don’t voice what we want for fear of the reply. For example, let’s say you are in a relationship and don’t feel like it is moving forward. You might be afraid that if you open your mouth, you won’t like what you hear. You might hear that your partner is not on the same page as you, or share the same feelings, so you keep your mouth shut. Don’t silence yourself. You’re feelings are real and deserve to be heard. Whatever the outcome is, voicing your needs is one step out of limbo and you will be able to release yourself from your mental and emotional distress.
2. Triggers out of limbo – Triggers that remind you of your state of limbo are crucial to helping you move forward and find a way out of it. For example, write down what you want. It is important to have a visual reminder of what you want in life, and where you are going. If you want a new job, write that down. Keep it in a place where you can be reminded so your feelings of limbo can be triggered and result in change.
3. Make a wrong turn – If you make a wrong decision that shakes you out of your limbo, that’s okay. It’s better than being stationary. A friend of mine recently wanted to express her feelings for a guy she was dating. She wanted to make it official and be a couple but was afraid he was going to say no and that would be the end of that. So, instead of telling him how she really felt, she said she thinks it’s better if they remain friends. She said exactly the opposite of what she wanted because fear held her back. She made a wrong turn, but it got her out of feeling stuck going nowhere in a relationship. But, once she made that wrong turn, she turned around and told him how she really felt. She made a step to voice her feelings and even a wrong step, or a step back, is still a step out of a frozen state of being.
Several factors keep us in limbo. Fear, insecurity, and the unknown all live and breathe in a state of limbo. But at the end of the day you choose to keep yourself there. Recognize the emotions that keep you stuck and work on countering those emotions with the steps listed above.
You can get out. Remember, you are the only one keeping you there!
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Loberg, E. (2013). Living in Emotional Limbo – 3 Steps to Get Out!. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 8, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/manic-depression/2013/04/22/living-in-emotional-limbo-3-steps-to-get-out/