pizzacrpdOk, I’m just gonna admit it: I have a problem sharing and it goes wayyy back.

Today I was making a pizza for my friend and I and found myself making my pizza better. It was a Boboli package with two crusts and I laid them both out on tin foil and watched myself give myself better pieces of tomato and more cheese. What?

It took me back to my childhood when I would have friends over and would give myself a milkshake with all the chunks of chocolate ice cream, and give my friends the liquid leftovers.  Not cool.

I am not a kid anymore, yet, find myself still doing it.  I wonder how this sick behavior, this selfishness, came about and think it’s hard to teach sharing to kids.  Whether they are an only child or one of many, sharing is a hard thing to teach children.

So, halfway through making these pizzas, I tried to give my friends pizza more love. I decided to try and break this habit and give them the better pizza. More toppings, better slices of green peppers, and it felt good.

Rule #1 (that’s the only rule I can come up with cause obviously, I’m still learning) –

  1. Find a way to make giving better then keeping.  If you can find a way to share feel better than hoarding, you’ve conquered the most important challenge of sharing.  It’s about selflessness. You want your friend to have the best experience possible so if making their pizza better means yours is mediocre, so be it.

So be it.  And, having said that…

At the end of the cooking, I took out the pizzas and managed to make my friends pizza better.

Then I kinda dropped some of it trying to get it off the pan and had to move the cheese and toppings back into place, knowing that it was far from better or perfect at this point, and, guess what?

Do you think I gave them that broken pizza or give them mine?

I kept the pizza, and gave them the broken one.  Terrible, but, my intentions were good.

However, intentions mean nothing when you have the chance to right a wrong.  I should have kept that fallen pizza.  I didn’t.


How do we unlearn poor sharing habits, and relearn good ones.  How do you teach sharing to your children?  It has got to be rough.


Pizza photo available from Shutterstock



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    Last reviewed: 27 Mar 2013

APA Reference
Loberg, E. (2013). Making Pizza – Learning How To Share, Or Not. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 2, 2015, from


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