Confronting a Liar: To Tell or Not to Tell, To Ask or Not to Ask
People lie. Often times we make excuses for people that lie, especially when we love them. Sometimes we get used to liars and find ways to let it go, but, at some point, it will be time to ask the question: Have you been lying to me about X?”
Whether big or small, whatever your “X” is can take over our your sense of logic, leaving you slowly falling down a spiral of living with lies cause once you start excepting or excusing someone’s dishonesty, it becomes normalcy. When this happens we lose ourselves, our dignity, and our pride. Nothing good comes of it. So, what is the best way to handle confronting a liar when you’ve given into or put up with their lies, and it’s your time now to keep it real:
- Anytime is a good time – why wait another day. You are never going to find a perfect moment. You can practice what you are going to say over and over but when it comes down to it, your emotions and trepidations will take over. So, take charge and trust yourself when you go to confront your liar.
- Anyplace is a good place – whether it’s in public or private, whatever place you feel most comfortable with is the place to be. Don’t wait for the perfect moment, or perfect place, cause it doesn’t exsist. Perfect is dealing with your liar now.
- Write your thoughts down – sometimes we get afraid to confront a liar. This can make us feel weak or insecure. To avoid this, write down a list of lies you’ve put up with. The list will stare you down making it impossible to avoid.
When it comes to confronting a liar, it comes down to confidence and readiness. At some point you’ll be ready. Make it a point to be more ready now than waiting another day full of a lie, tomorrow…e
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Loberg, E. (2013). Confronting a Liar: To Tell or Not to Tell, To Ask or Not to Ask. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 22, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/manic-depression/2013/03/05/confronting-a-liar-to-tell-or-not-to-tell-to-ask-or-not-to-ask/