breakupcrpdWe’ve all read enough “How To” books. It’s time to address how NOT TO do something.

Here are some tips on how NOT TO break up:

Do NOT dig up the past.  You know a list of reasons why you should break up.  Keep it to yourself.  Voicing your laundry list doesn’t do anyone any good.  You know.  That’s enough.   Both of you are at such a vulnerable place, hurting one another is not good.  You will regret it.  Remember this is your moment.  Don’t let your emotions get the best of you. Loose lips cause pain.  No one needs it.

Do NOT be dramatic.  It’s only going to make problems and you put yourself out of the drivers seat.  Stay in control, you know what you’re doing so maintain control.

Do NOT consider a text.  Notice I didn’t say don’t send a text, cause that is preposterous.  You’re stronger then that.  Above it. Don’t text it out. BUT writing a letter is okay.  If you have trouble communicating verbally, it’s okay to write a letter. It’s old fashion and sincere.  It’s okay.

Do NOT drink. Alcohol is OUT.  Don’t get drunk and wake up the next day wondering what you said, or can’t take back.  You want to know why you pulled the plug word for word.  Any form of alternation is a bad idea.  Keep the peace, sober.

What TO DO:

After you do it, right, put on your favorite song that matches your emotions.  November Rain from Guns N Roses, just a suggestion.

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    Last reviewed: 22 Feb 2013

APA Reference
Loberg, E. (2013). How NOT TO Break Up.. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 25, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/manic-depression/2013/02/22/how-not-to-break-up/

 

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