My life is pretty chaotic. It’s the good kind of chaos, but chaotic nonetheless. A few monts ago I noticed that I’d been a little more stressed than usual and sharted this with a colleague. She suggested that I try meditating.
MEDITATE? I almost laughed out loud. Let’s be honest, I think my brain suffers from what I like to call “I can’t shut down syndrome”. I’d tried meditation before and it was an epic fail. I found myself picturing peaceful scenes only to be interrupted by my own random thoughts. I moved on to mantras that turned into thoughts ranging from what i was going to make for dinner to is it possible to count my eyelashes! Meditation was not for me, or so I believed
I am back from a small hiatus. It wasn’t a planned hiatus – life just happened. Trust me, when it happened it happened up, down, around, and all over me. Have you ever had one those days, weeks, or months when those “life happens” moments just keep coming – one after another, after another, after another? Within a few weeks I had some health issues, some frustrations, computer issues, some disappointments, along with some genuine “are you serious?” moments.
I have to admit, I temporarily lost my focus. All of those postive things I live by and write about went right out the window. Then I remembered that when the going gets tough, the tough get going.
I was convinced I was dying. As a matter of fact, there was no way you could convince me otherwise. Oddly I accepted my fate and whispered to my husband “call 911, I’m dying”. I was sweating profusely, I could feel my heartbeat in my neck and my pulse echoed in my ears. I couldn’t breathe, my face felt weird, my hands were numb, and I was shaking like a leaf. EMS arrived and tried with all their might to convince me I wasn’t dying, but I was convinced they just wanted me to die peacefully without a fight. After some deep breathing and close monitoring I realized I wasn’t dying and was told I had an anxiety attack.
A few months ago a very good friend of mine said to me, “the majority of your frustrations are due to your unrealistic expectations.” I didn’t know how to feel about her statement. There I sat venting to her about the frustrations of my life, waiting for her to co-sign on my misery, and that’s what she gave me. I have to admit that it stung a little, but I slowly began to realize it was the truth.
My parents taught me to follow the Golden Rule – to do unto others as I would have them do unto me. This is something that followed me into my adult life. The funny thing is that I missed a very important piece. The rule is do unto others AS you would have them to do unto you. The reality is that you don’t always get what you give.
We have all experienced a moment where we have been approached by a friend, co-worker, or maybe even a spouse and asked to do something we really didn’t feel like doing. We’ve also had those moments where instead of saying no, we’ve smiled and responded with the dreaded “yes”. So why do we have difficulties telling others no when we don’t feel like doing something?
The Golden Rule Effect
Many of us were instructed at a very young age to “do unto others as you would have them to do unto you”. Sometimes we may avoid telling someone no because we would want them to tell us yes.
Fear of a Missed Opportunity
Let’s be honest, we all have some time where we just don’t feel like it. The “it” may be going to work, tackling a project, completing chores, helping the kids with homework, or just getting out of the bed. Whatever the “it” is, sometimes we just don’t feel like doing it.
I’ve been in this slump lately. I’ve noticed that often when I’m unmotivated, I’m usually overwhelmed. Being overwhelmed is just one reason for being unmotivated. Not sleeping well can often be a reason for lack of motivation. Other reasons include, but are not limited to: stress, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, feel of failure, or just disinterest in the task at hand.
It should be noted that if you experience lack of motivation for an extended period of time with no or infrequent breaks, you may wish to talk to your physician as it could be a sign of other conditions.
Whatever your reason for your lack of motivation, there are ways to get it back. These simple solutions may get you motivated in no time.
Earlier this week I challenged you all (and myself) to the 7 Days of Not Complaining. Well, the first day was an epic fail. I guess I shouldn’t call it epic, but it was not so great. I have to be honest though, I believe I’ve gotten a little better every day since then, and I believe this is something I can get used to.
For those of you who regularly check out my blogs, you know how I feel about the Serenity Prayer. For those of you who are new, let me tell you, I try to apply it to everything. This 7 day challenge has been no exception.
In the last week I’ve noticed something about myself that was a little concerning. Life has been happening, and it’s been a little more chaotic than usual. Instead of taking it in stride, I’ve been complaining… a lot! I am not a chronic complainer. As a matter of fact, I usually find myself not only finding my silver lining, but finding it for others as well. This week, I’ve just been frustrated.
When I get into a “funk,” I usually remind myself that my gratitude determines my attitude. However, in all honesty, there are those moments that I’m truly grateful, but still discontent.
I’ve decided I’d give myself a 7-day challenge. I’m appropriately naming it “Seven Days of Not Complaining.” It will be really interesting to see how this goes.
My last two blog posts explored exercising and eating well for emotional health. Now that we’ve covered eating and exercising, this blog will explore relaxing for emotional health.
Relaxation is your body’s way of rejuvenating. Relaxing allows time for your mind and body to repair. It has also been shown that relaxing improves your mood and improves brain function and memory.
I have found the importance of relaxation in my own life. I’ve discovered when I neglect finding time to relax, I do not perform as well in any area of my life. It’s not that I don’t like to relax, but in the midst of a chaotic schedule, I found it hard to find the time.
Here are some ways I’ve learned to incorporate relaxation into my daily schedule. If you try them, you may find they work for you as well.
My last blog included information exploring the benefits of exercising for emotional health. This blog will explore the benefits of eating well for emotional health.
Nearly two years ago I was blessed with the opportunity to be under the care of a wonderful naturopathic doctor. After years of trying conventional medicine to provide some relief from endometriosis pain, I decided to give the natural way a shot. My doctor placed me on a special, personalized, anti-inflammatory diet that really changed my life. The diet reduced my pain, but what I also found was that I felt better overall.
Many people do not realize it, but you actually are what you eat. Eating healthy can drastically change your mood and improve your way of life. Scientific research shows there are many links between what you eat and your mood.