Are You Still Complaining?
Earlier this week I challenged you all (and myself) to the 7 Days of Not Complaining. Well, the first day was an epic fail. I guess I shouldn’t call it epic, but it was not so great. I have to be honest though, I believe I’ve gotten a little better every day since then, and I believe this is something I can get used to.
For those of you who regularly check out my blogs, you know how I feel about the Serenity Prayer. For those of you who are new, let me tell you, I try to apply it to everything. This 7 day challenge has been no exception.
I started at work. Work can be a bit chaotic at times. There are policies and procedures I don’t always agree with and there are people who are not always easy to get along with. Later I moved on to just regular “life happens” stressors. This time I changed the Serenity Prayer a little to make it work for this challenge. I prayed “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things that I can, and help me forget about the rest.”
I have to say it’s been pretty awesome.
When I typically ask for the “wisdom to know the difference,” I tend to become too analytical. Once I realize I can’t change something, I start to ponder why I can’t and sometimes ignorantly try to change it anyway. This time I just asked to forget about them.
If you decided to join me on this 7 day challenge, I hope you’ve found it to be rewarding. If you haven’t started, it’s never too late. If you get off to a rough start, here’s a few tips on how to stay focused.
1) Don’t be discouraged. Remember, it’s not likely you began complaining overnight, so it’s not likely that you’ll stop that soon. Also, it’s a little unrealistic to say that we will never complain. Keep in mind the goal is to reduce the number of complaints.
2) Take it in stride. If it’s hard to commit to not complaining for the day, take it hour-by-hour or minute-by-minute. If you can’t commit to a day, I’m sure you can commit to the next five minutes. If you find yourself complaining about one thing often, you may wish to commit to not complaining about that one thing.
3) Stay positive. If you find yourself complaining about not being able to stop complaining, this may be a sign that you’re not being so positive. On a serious note, it’s okay to laugh about your complaints.- recognize them and move forward. Don’t try to be a perfectionist, just focus on the progress.
It’s my plan to continue this challenge beyond the 7 days and cultivate a positive change within myself, I encourage you all to do the same. It can only help because it definitely won’t hurt!
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White, D. (2012). Are You Still Complaining?. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 19, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/life-happens/2012/08/are-you-still-complaining/