photo (7)There was a time when I believed that being happy was dependent on what other people thought and how they reacted.  However, as I got older, I learned that happiness can also come from within.  There is that desire for us to feel wanted and loved by others which in turn makes us feel valued and happy, however, being able to love and value yourself is just as important – I dare to say very important.

We deserve love, we deserve to be respected and appreciated and the good news is that it can start with you.  It is never too late to learn how to value yourself.  Here are a few things that I have found helpful in connecting with myself, on the quest to continue loving myself.

* Spend time alone:  This is not the same as isolation, however it is giving yourself the time out of your day/week to enjoy an activity.  It can be as simple as reading, taking a walk, going for a swim, watching a movie, shopping or cooking.  You decide!

* Journal:  I always encourage my clients to journal.  It is a great way to express yourself and to be free from judgment by others.  You can be really creative with your journals, there is no right or wrong.

* Meditation:  Not everyone can embrace meditation and that is okay, however it is an opportunity to spend quiet time with yourself and there are even some suggested health benefits to meditation.

* Self Affirmation:  Being kind to yourself includes saying and thinking positive things about yourself.  Although things may be difficult at times, negative thinking only adds to the stress and frustration.  Loving yourself means you are willing to honor and be patient with yourself.

How are you going to love yourself this week?


Photo:  A picture of mine that shows some of the things that mean a lot to me



View Comments / Leave a Comment

This post currently has 4 comments.
You can read the comments or leave your own thoughts.

    Last reviewed: 6 Oct 2013

APA Reference
Callender, K. (2013). It Starts With Loving Yourself. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 27, 2015, from



Subscribe to this Blog:

Or Get a Single, Daily Email (enter email address):

via FeedBurner

Recent Comments
  • Karisse Callender, MS, SAC, LPC: Thanks for sharing that Laurie!
  • Laurie: I am in favor of setting healthy boundaries. I also opt to be a caring and nurturing person whenever possible...
  • Vixs66: I agree with all of these, it would also help if those who are “carrying” around shame...
  • Karisse Callender, MS, SAC, LPC: Thank you for sharing! Grounding can be so helpful and a great way to maintain a...
  • goingtothedogs: I have used grounding in sessions. Focus on my breathing, then focus on my physical sensations and...
Find a Therapist
Enter ZIP or postal code

Users Online: 12240
Join Us Now!