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Give It Time: Good Things Come To Those Who Wait

By Karisse Callender, MS, SAC, LPC

il_570xN.419748855_eq1sHaving patience can be a real challenge at times.  Whether it’s patience with changes in life, with things that we expect or even with things that we are about to do.  Patience is required with people, places, things and situations.  Most importantly, patience is required in a loving relationship with ourselves.

There is sometimes the tendency to rush ourselves, to rush progress and to rush healing.  However, the time it takes for this progress and healing to take place, we can learn a lot about ourselves.  We can use this time to observe the changes we are going through and how we handle the various situations.

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Spring Growth

By Karisse Callender, MS, SAC, LPC

il_570xN.574449088_2l66One of my favorite times of the year is Spring, simply because of all the new growth and fresh greens around.  It’s a lovely time to be outside and observe everything coming back to life and color after a period of winter.

During this time, I encourage clients to truly reflect on what the change in this season can represent for them, in their life change.  I often encourage them to reflect on areas of their lives that they have grown and made positive changes.

Spring is a great time to explore ways to feel renewed, rejuvenated and refreshed.  Here are a few suggestions for encouraging this transition:

* Journal

* Try something new (new class, new type of food, sightseeing etc.)

* Set daily intentions

* Read positive affirmations

* Reach out to healthy people who can support and encourage you

* Daily reflection

* Explore a healthier diet (more vegetables, drink more water, eat more grains, eliminate alcohol and/or other drugs)

*Believe in yourself

What changes are you planning to make this spring?

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The Roots Of Shame

By Karisse Callender, MS, SAC, LPC

il_570xN.424191647_36qrWhenever I meet someone and they strongly and positively impact my life, I consider it a blessing and an honor.  In saying that, I considered it to be a great blessing getting to know F. Remy Diedrerich, the author of the book Healing The Hurts Of Your Past and the lead pastor at Cedarbrook Church.

In his book, he identified three roots of shame and I wanted to share this information with you.  I have seen how important it is to be able to talk and process events surrounding shame with clients.  For some, it strongly influenced their addiction and lack of self worth.

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Checklist For Life: Letting Go, Releasing The Grip

By Karisse Callender, MS, SAC, LPC

il_570xN.414052229_5yhvI have always believed that in order for one to be a good leader, being a good follower is important.  I try to encourage clients to seek out their personal strengths and in doing so, find a mentor for the healthy behaviors they would like to either adopt or increase.  Learning from others can be a very powerful tool, if used in a healthy way.

I enjoy reading quotes and tips from the Checklist For Life books as I believe they provide wisdom and helpful strategies, some I use myself and with clients.  I found the topic of “Releasing Your Grip” to be very helpful in learning healthy leadership skills.

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Seeking Safety: Grounding

By Karisse Callender, MS, SAC, LPC

appleWhen working with clients who have been exposed to some form of trauma and also struggling with an addiction, it is very important to have material in group or individual setting that the client can relate to. I found a great resource through a recent training, and wanted to share some of the material on grounding. In her workbook Seeking Safety: A Treatment Manual For PTSD and Substance Abuse,   Lisa M Najavits describes grounding as “a set of simple strategies to detach from emotional pain.”  She outlines three ways to practice grounding which I will give a little information on.  I encourage you to explore this resource and utilize the materials appropriately with your clients.  Information about training for the Seeking Safety program is available on the website.

* Mental Grounding

With this style, attention is paid to the environment and use of the senses is helpful (example, what do you see? what can you touch? what do you smell?).  A safety statement is one aspect of this style of grounding.  The client states their name and repeats that they are in the present and safe at this time.  The client is encouraged to bring themselves to focus on the present moment.

* Physical Grounding

Another play on the senses here as the client can touch various objects and describe them in detail.  Movement is encouraged (slow waling, jumping up and down) and a focus is placed on the breath.  Clients can also eat something (like a fruit, vegetable etc) and describe in detail what they eat.  The client can be encouraged to also take a small object with them at all times to turn to at the moment of an overwhelming emotion.

* Soothing Grounding

Saying and thinking kind things can be very helpful in this type of grounding.  The client is encouraged to think about people and words that are meaningful in a positive way and encouraged to think of a safe place.  Clients can think about things that they look forward to or what a safe treat would be.

Have you ever utilized grounding techniques before in session or in your personal life?  What was the experience like?

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Searching For Balance: A Mind-Body Connection

By Karisse Callender, MS, SAC, LPC

il_570xN.164654285I have been reading Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love and Wisdom by Dr. Rick Hanson and he shares some very interesting and important points that I want to pass on to you.

* When you change your brain, you change your life.

* Only humans worry about the future, regret the past, and blame ourselves for the present.  We get frustrated when we can’t have what we want, and disappointed when what we like ends.

* To make any problem better, you need to understand its causes.

* Compassion for yourself helps reduce your suffering.

* Find refuge in whatever is a sanctuary and refueling station for you.  Potential refuges include people, activities, places, and tangible things like reason, a sense of your innermost being, or truth.

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New Year Wishes

By Karisse Callender, MS, SAC, LPC

il_570xN.511826807_jrraI want to take time out to wish you all a very happy and successful 2014.  I hope that the new year brings with it all the healthy things you desire for your life.  Take this time to reflect on the past year and set goals and intentions for the new year ahead.  What a great time to create new experiences!  I also wanted to say thank you for reading and supporting this blog in the past year.

I have been thinking a lot about having a mantra for 2014, and I have decided to return to a meaningful mantra I identified with a few years ago.  It is one word that is simple but has within it, many meanings in my life.  It is simply: Breathe.

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Holiday Cheer

By Karisse Callender, MS, SAC, LPC

il_570xN.381317723_6caoThis is one of my favorite times of the year.  I love the music, the food, the snow and the opportunity to spend time with family and loved ones.  It’s a great time to reflect and to be reminded of the blessings that have come our way.

During the holidays, many people also feel very disconnected and alone.  For some, this is a time of year where they are reminded that they are alone.  That can be very difficult and overwhelming for some.


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Pamper Yourself: You Deserve Your Own Love

By Karisse Callender, MS, SAC, LPC

il_570xN.461723298_bwcrI went to a thrift shop recently and found a couple books worthy of bringing home.  One of those books was 50 Ways To Pamper Yourself by Stephanie Tourles.  I read the book, cover to cover, and decided that some things were worth sharing with you.  Self care is very important to our emotional and physical health as it helps to keep us balanced and connected.  What better way to practice self care than to engage in some well deserved pampering! The author encourages us to not think of pampering as sitting around doing nothing all day, but rather a way to find more pleasure and unwind.

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In All Things, Give Thanks

By Karisse Callender, MS, SAC, LPC

il_570xN.370000643_qgnuThanksgiving is coming up and it is a time when we take time to reflect on the people and things we are grateful for.  During this time, it is important to keep in mind those who may feel lonely, isolated or rejected.  We all want to have that feeling of belonging and a sense of love, but not everyone can be that lucky.  Can you think of someone that may be feeling this way that you can reach out to this season?  I encourage you to do some soul searching and reaching out.

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