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4 Ways Positive Thinking Keeps You Stuck (So Don’t Do It!)


Growing up in a family that never encountered a cliché it didn’t embrace, I was surrounded by positive thinking. There was a tea cozy that announced that “Every cloud has a silver lining” and, at some point, a chintzy plaque that read “When Life Hands You Lemons, Make Lemonade.” Yes, it had a lemon painted on it. So, my distrust of these upbeat mottos and mantras runs deep—rightly, as it happens.

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4 Ways Positive Thinking Keeps You Stuck (So Don’t Do It!)

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  1. If we think positively about ourselves we will be able to see who is negative around us. We can also positively believe that it is OK to walk away. We need to be positive about our self-worth and be ready to walk away from anything that clashes with that strongly positive self-belief.

    • Well, it does depend on how accurate your positive vision of self is. Everything you’ve written is precisely what someone high in narcissistic traits believes.

  2. I recently had to distance myself from a niece who is married to the most narcissistic man I’ve ever had the misfortune of meeting. I’ve been saying that she is pathologically “nice” but the behavior you outlined in your article is exactly what I’ve seen and heard from her over the past 6 years. Postivity is her mantra NO MATTER WHAT. In 6 years he’s had 7 jobs, 3 DUI’s, 2 failed businesses (3-4 still in the hopper), 5 changes in residence, more vehicles than anyone can count, a brief jail stint and now their 5 year old has such severe OCD she is seeing a psychiatrist. However, my niece is proud that when he’s in one of his moods and treats her poorly in front of the kids she responds by being peppy and asking the kids if they want to make cupcakes….every time I feel bad about cutting ties with her I’m going to reread this article. THANK YOU SO MUCH PEG

 

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