Who’s The Most Important Person You Talk To?

By Jake & Hannah Eagle • 2 min read

Screen Shot 2015-01-19 at 10.25.17 AMYou are!

And what’s the quality of the conversations you have with yourself? Based on my experience as a therapist I would say the quality is pretty low—the way most people talk to themselves is embarrassing. They are harsh with themselves, highly critical, impatient and unforgiving. You wouldn’t talk to your kids this way, would you? You wouldn’t want to talk this way to anyone you love.

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Falling In Love Again

By Jake & Hannah Eagle • 1 min read

LoversDo you love your partner, but miss that “in love” feeling you once had?

Through the years, has your relationship been on cruise control, focused on career, the kids, building a home, pretty much everything but your connection with each other? Is it time to change your priorities so that your relationship can become fun again?

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4 Radical Things You Can Do To Make Your Relationship Easier

By Jake & Hannah Eagle • 2 min read

Screen Shot 2014-07-22 at 3.06.09 PMHow well do you communicate? No one taught us how to talk to each other and rarely have any of us had good role models for what this might look like.

If we learn how to have healthy adult/adult conversations, we’ll avoid a great deal of the tension and hurt feelings that so many couples endure.

Learning how to talk to each other can make all the difference, but there are a few underpinnings for doing this well:

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How Will You Be A Better Person In 2015?

By Jake & Hannah Eagle • 1 min read

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New Year’s represents a new beginning

What I like about New Year’s is that I can start fresh. I do this by asking the question, “How will I be a better person next year?”

So, I ask you, “How will you be a better person next year?” What do you need to do that you haven’t been doing? What do you need to stop doing that you have been doing?

I’ll share with you my own example. I know precisely what I need to do to be a better person.

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Hoping They’ll Change Doesn’t Make It So

By Jake & Hannah Eagle • 2 min read

wedding invitation or card loversEver gotten involved with someone, while hoping they’ll change?

Of course no one you choose will be perfect (my husband, Jake, objects to that statement). And we don’t want to be too picky. We can have too many personal desires and quirks that we want satisfied by our partner. But getting involved with the wrong person and hoping they’ll change . . . it doesn’t work very well.

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Why Romantic Relationships Fail: reason #2

By Jake & Hannah Eagle • 3 min read

Screen Shot 2014-12-12 at 6.22.12 PMIn Why Romantic Relationships Fail: reason #1, I discussed the reason why we tend to pick the wrong partners. In this article I’ll discuss the second major reason why romantic relationships fail, which is because we tolerate immaturity—our own immaturity and that of our partners.

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Why Romantic Relationships Fail: reason #1

By Jake & Hannah Eagle • 4 min read

Screen Shot 2014-12-03 at 12.07.08 PMHave you had multiple partners, but the basic dynamic between you and them remains the same, which in short is this—you don’t get what you want? Somehow you keep making the same mistake, either choosing the wrong person or looking for the wrong thing from the person you choose.

There is a solution and it involves choosing a different kind of partner and having different expectations about being in partnership.

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Conscious Relating

By Jake & Hannah Eagle • 1 min read

Screen Shot 2014-11-24 at 4.48.43 PMWe often put a lot of time and effort into raising our consciousness. We meditate, practice tai chi, and do yoga to stretch our bodies and our spirits.

But all the mindfulness practice in the world doesn’t help our relationships if we don’t choose to integrate this growth of consciousness into our relating.

Off the yoga mat, we can easily trigger ourselves and get lost in old recycled arguments—again and again—even with someone we dearly love.

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When life is hard I don’t want to be present

By Jake & Hannah Eagle • 2 min read

LoversA lot of people don’t actually want to be present in their lives because being present sucks—if you don’t like your job, don’t get along with your partner, don’t feel good in your body—and therefore you’d rather be someplace else.

So what can I do when the current realities of my life are such that I would rather not be present? I think that there are two general ways to approach this situation.

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How To Be More Mature

By Jake & Hannah Eagle • 2 min read

Screen Shot 2014-11-06 at 10.30.55 AMI think the most useful thing I’ve done in my relationship with my partner is to stop complaining about what I didn’t get, (“I’m upset because you _________.”)  and instead, ask for what I want.

This doesn’t mean I always get what I want, but the vast majority of the time I do.

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