The Meaning of Life — Part 2

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screenshot 2014-06-14 12.39.16Part one of this blog—about finding the meaning of your life—focused mainly on looking outside yourself and  finding ways to contribute to other people. I proposed that helping others is a way to help ourselves.

There is another equally salient point . . .

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The Meaning of Life

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-09-12 at 6.53.48 PMOften I hear people yearning to find the meaning of life. They want to know what their purpose is for being here.

This pursuit pretty much assumes that we each have a specific reason for being here and our job is to discover what that is. Some spend a lifetime pursuing this but never finding what they’re looking for because they’re too focused on themselves.

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What Might Happen If You Go To Bed Angry

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-09-03 at 6.32.08 PMThat’s what my mom used to tell me: “Never go to bed angry, because one of you might not wake up the following day.” I don’t know how often she said it or even why she was so moved to say it, but it was one bit of wisdom from her that always stuck in my mind.

Most of my growing up years, and then through my thirties and into my forties, I would think about what she said if I was mad at someone. The thought would come automatically, but I rarely heeded her advice.

Before Death and After Death

Now I divide my life into two phases, like BC and AD, only mine are BD and AD—Before (Sarah’s) Death and After (Sarah’s) Death. And, maybe, BR and AR, Before Reology and After Reology.

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Are We Becoming Psychologically Overly Sensitive

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-08-27 at 8.25.26 PMI concern myself that we have become, or are becoming, psychologically overly sensitive. I suppose it’s not true of everyone, but I suspect it’s true for many people reading blogs like this one on Psychcentral. I know there is great value in developing self-awareness, but when does it become excessive? When does self-awareness turn into self-indulgence?

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Why Are We So Different?

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Concept of man & woman couple hands showing intimacy & love. TheIn Reology, we learn to celebrate our differences. Instead of judging each other or ourselves, we learn to appreciate our differences and quit expecting others, particularly our romantic partners, to think and be like ourselves. And perhaps we can then, stop trying so hard to change them.

As Elie Wiesel says, there is human beauty in tolerance. Tolerating differences is beautiful. That doesn’t mean tolerance is always beautiful. For example, it’s not beautiful to tolerate immature, disrespectful behavior.

But that’s not what I am talking about here.

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Save Your Relationship

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-08-14 at 10.26.41 AMWhat is your relationship like? Are you quarreling frequently? Has it become more of a convenience than a haven from the world out there? Do you want to save your relationship?

What if you could recapture that long ago sweetness and spark that your relationship once had? Would you like to feel that again? The answer may not be simple . . . but then again, maybe it is.

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Soulmates Have Best Relationships

By Jake & Hannah Eagle
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By: Sabrina Campagna

Recently there was another article published in PsychCentral with the title Soulmates Have Worst Relationships. The idea was based on research done by Spike W. S. Lee and Norbert Schwarz, recently published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology.

The quick summary is that if you frame your relationship with the metaphor that you are soulmates—or meant to be together—you may find it more upsetting when there is conflict in your relationship. Whereas if you frame your relationship as a journey you may not find conflict so upsetting because you realize that a journey implies you will grow and work things out.

We want to offer a different point of view. Relationships don’t have to be hard work.

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Love is NOT Never Having To Say You’re Sorry

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-07-29 at 11.55.40 AMThe 1970 film Love Story was a beautiful film and considered one of the most romantic of all time.

The most memorable line was “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” At the time we were all moved by that line. Perhaps this is where the myth of unconditional love originated?

But it is a myth that causes damage.

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The Perfect Kiss

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-07-22 at 3.06.09 PMA kiss is just a kiss . . . or is it? There are lots of kinds of kisses. There are kisses for your grandma, kisses for your grandson, kisses for your best friend, and then there are kisses.

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A Buddhist Monk’s Answer to Life: Part II

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-05-08 at 12.42.38 PMIn part one of this article I told the story about the Buddhist Monk I met while in Kyoto, Japan. I astounded myself with how many people not only read the article, but then asked for more information. And there is more to the story because I went back to visit the monk and here is part of what he said . . .

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