Do you want to open your heart? But maybe you don't feel safe enough. Do you want to overcome your anxiety? But maybe you don't know how. I'll share with you a model that will help you do all three: feel safer, open your heart, and overcome your anxiety.
What drives you? What is it that underlies the ways you respond to the world and react to people? It's your need to feel safe. But, here's the problem, your pursuit of safety has become a habit. You seek safety even when you no longer need to. And there is a much easier way to be in the world.
I am publicly declaring my fear of public speaking, but more importantly, how I overcame it. And how you can, too. “99% of the population is afraid of public speaking, and of the remaining 1%, 99% of them have nothing original and interesting to say.” ― Jarod Kintz
There are three steps we can take to create happiness, make our relationships easy, and eliminate anxiety in our lives. Psychotherapy attempts to address two of these steps—not always successfully—but it doesn't address the third. By adding the third step, we change the entire game, and make it possible for us to find what so many of us are searching for. Each step in this process awakens a different degree of our consciousness.
Is it possible that there is one solution that will address all your relationship issues? We believe there is. It is a simple idea that was created by the father of existential psychotherapy, Rollo May. With just two sentences he addressed the complex challenges that have to do with relating to other people—including our partners, parents, children and friends.
As therapists, can we offer our clients a magic bullet? Generally, I’m not a believer in magic bullets or saviors. But what if there is one? What if there is a way to help our clients—and us—alleviate suffering. Wouldn't you want that for yourself? And if it repeatedly works, by following a precise protocol, is that magic, or just a great technique?
Would you like some Viagra for your mind? Viagra overrides certain limitations by altering our physiology—in both men and women. There is something similar we can do to override our psychological and emotional limitations. When we do this we essentially turbo-boost the results we achieve in our lives.
Many people are seeking ways to be more present in their lives: meditation, mindfulness, yoga . . . and all are helpful. But what about during heated conversations with your partner? Do you know how to be present during those times? In this article I'll share specific methods that are simple, yet powerful.