General

3 Things To Do When Therapy Doesn’t Work

What can we do when we’re stuck and therapy isn’t helping? I’ve been in therapy on and off over many years and I’ve discovered three things to do when my therapy feels flat.

Seek a new therapist
Focus on the next steps to individuate from parents, and/or partners.
Seek constitutional Homeopathic treatment.

When therapy is no longer feeling productive, that doesn't necessarily mean you're the problem. So, consider the following options . . .

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Love & Romance

How To Make Love Easy?

Are relationships hard work?
In the world we live in, romantic relationships are easy and nourishing. That doesn’t mean that we don’t put effort into our relationships—we do—but we do so without any resistance because the process we use eliminates most conflict, all aggression, and any form of disrespect. So, it’s easy. And as a bonus, we don’t spend a whole bunch of time processing “stuff.”
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Love & Romance

Does vulnerability help or hinder romantic relationships?

What does it look like, feel like, sound like to have a healthy romantic love relationship? Does vulnerability help us or hinder us?

This question arose recently when I was working with a client. The man I was working with is very healthy, extremely bright, and very committed to his own personal development. But the more we talked the more I realized his ideas about the need to be vulnerable were getting in his way. After I pointed this out to him, he asked, "Well then, what does a healthy romantic partnership look like?"
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General

Can Your Find The Gift?

I have come to believe that there is a gift in every event, every encounter, and every difficulty. Is this true? No, but it’s an example of how I choose to make meaning and it serves me really well.

Some times I have trouble seeing the gift, but if I’m willing to look for the gift each time I bump into a troublesome moment, I can change my experience radically. And this is
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PRO: A New Therapy Model

This article will introduce you to a new psycho-therapeutic model. The purpose of the model is to identify which of three emotional energetic states a person is in and then respond in the appropriate manner. The other benefit of this model is that it gives individuals a new emotional vocabulary.

This model has been developed by combining aspects of Reology and Network Spinal Analysis. Reology is a linguistic model that helps people realize and remember that they are continuously making up meaning of all that they experience. When people realize this they become empowered and less attached to prior ways of making meaning—their stories.
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