Why Are We So Different?

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Concept of man & woman couple hands showing intimacy & love. TheIn Reology, we learn to celebrate our differences. Instead of judging each other or ourselves, we learn to appreciate our differences and quit expecting others, particularly our romantic partners, to think and be like ourselves. And perhaps we can then, stop trying so hard to change them.

As Elie Wiesel says, there is human beauty in tolerance. Tolerating differences is beautiful. That doesn’t mean tolerance is always beautiful. For example, it’s not beautiful to tolerate immature, disrespectful behavior.

But that’s not what I am talking about here.

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Save Your Relationship

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-08-14 at 10.26.41 AMWhat is your relationship like? Are you quarreling frequently? Has it become more of a convenience than a haven from the world out there? Do you want to save your relationship?

What if you could recapture that long ago sweetness and spark that your relationship once had? Would you like to feel that again? The answer may not be simple . . . but then again, maybe it is.

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Soulmates Have Best Relationships

By Jake & Hannah Eagle
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By: Sabrina Campagna

Recently there was another article published in PsychCentral with the title Soulmates Have Worst Relationships. The idea was based on research done by Spike W. S. Lee and Norbert Schwarz, recently published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology.

The quick summary is that if you frame your relationship with the metaphor that you are soulmates—or meant to be together—you may find it more upsetting when there is conflict in your relationship. Whereas if you frame your relationship as a journey you may not find conflict so upsetting because you realize that a journey implies you will grow and work things out.

We want to offer a different point of view. Relationships don’t have to be hard work.

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Love is NOT Never Having To Say You’re Sorry

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-07-29 at 11.55.40 AMThe 1970 film Love Story was a beautiful film and considered one of the most romantic of all time.

The most memorable line was “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” At the time we were all moved by that line. Perhaps this is where the myth of unconditional love originated?

But it is a myth that causes damage.

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The Perfect Kiss

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-07-22 at 3.06.09 PMA kiss is just a kiss . . . or is it? There are lots of kinds of kisses. There are kisses for your grandma, kisses for your grandson, kisses for your best friend, and then there are kisses.

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A Buddhist Monk’s Answer to Life: Part II

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-05-08 at 12.42.38 PMIn part one of this article I told the story about the Buddhist Monk I met while in Kyoto, Japan. I astounded myself with how many people not only read the article, but then asked for more information. And there is more to the story because I went back to visit the monk and here is part of what he said . . .

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Make Your Relationship a Safe Haven

By Jake & Hannah Eagle
By: Kelly Zamudio

By: Kelly Zamudio

How can we learn to love better? How do we make our intimate relationships feel like a safe haven—a totally safe place in which we can open up our hearts to each other?

We can do this by learning to speak to each other in a different way. If we can truly begin to communicate with those we love—with the kindness and honesty that we would appreciate receiving—we can create relationships that we enjoy almost all of the time—ones we’ll want to grow old within. And as we do—grow old together—what we’ll experience is exquisite.

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The key to successful relationships: Intolerance

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

On the beach, two loversWe live in a world that encourages political correctness—always advocating tolerance. But in this article we’re going to suggest something politically incorrect: be intolerant.

There are two things, primarily, that you need to stop tolerating. One of them has to do with your behavior, the other has to do with your partner’s behavior. To learn what they are, read on.

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The Perfect Partner

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-06-10 at 3.09.33 PMThe thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.”

~ Anna Quindlen

But is there really such a thing as the perfect partner? Yeah, I think there actually is, at least one who is perfect for you—but your perfect partner won’t be perfect for everyone. And if they could be, you’d likely have to be perfect too.

Nobody’s perfect. You already knew that. But our fights to be right in our relationships often stem from that very delusion. We think that if we’re wrong then we’re not perfect. And we must be perfect to deserve love. Why else would being right be so important to us?

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Is Your Relationship Nourishing or Exhausting?

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-06-18 at 3.15.29 PMWe have a unique approach to romantic relationships—we think they should be easy.

Yet, we encounter so many couples who tell us that their relationships are hard work. Why do these people stay in such relationships? Two basic reasons. 1) They prefer the known to the unknown. 2) They believe that they have lessons to learn and the hard work is helping them grow.

There’s an easier way to grow. And we explore what that looks like in this article . . .

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