The Perfect Kiss

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-07-22 at 3.06.09 PMA kiss is just a kiss . . . or is it? There are lots of kinds of kisses. There are kisses for your grandma, kisses for your grandson, kisses for your best friend, and then there are kisses.

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A Buddhist Monk’s Answer to Life: Part II

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-05-08 at 12.42.38 PMIn part one of this article I told the story about the Buddhist Monk I met while in Kyoto, Japan. I astounded myself with how many people not only read the article, but then asked for more information. And there is more to the story because I went back to visit the monk and here is part of what he said . . .

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Make Your Relationship a Safe Haven

By Jake & Hannah Eagle
By: Kelly Zamudio

By: Kelly Zamudio

How can we learn to love better? How do we make our intimate relationships feel like a safe haven—a totally safe place in which we can open up our hearts to each other?

We can do this by learning to speak to each other in a different way. If we can truly begin to communicate with those we love—with the kindness and honesty that we would appreciate receiving—we can create relationships that we enjoy almost all of the time—ones we’ll want to grow old within. And as we do—grow old together—what we’ll experience is exquisite.

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The key to successful relationships: Intolerance

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

On the beach, two loversWe live in a world that encourages political correctness—always advocating tolerance. But in this article we’re going to suggest something politically incorrect: be intolerant.

There are two things, primarily, that you need to stop tolerating. One of them has to do with your behavior, the other has to do with your partner’s behavior. To learn what they are, read on.

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The Perfect Partner

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-06-10 at 3.09.33 PMThe thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.”

~ Anna Quindlen

But is there really such a thing as the perfect partner? Yeah, I think there actually is, at least one who is perfect for you—but your perfect partner won’t be perfect for everyone. And if they could be, you’d likely have to be perfect too.

Nobody’s perfect. You already knew that. But our fights to be right in our relationships often stem from that very delusion. We think that if we’re wrong then we’re not perfect. And we must be perfect to deserve love. Why else would being right be so important to us?

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Is Your Relationship Nourishing or Exhausting?

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-06-18 at 3.15.29 PMWe have a unique approach to romantic relationships—we think they should be easy.

Yet, we encounter so many couples who tell us that their relationships are hard work. Why do these people stay in such relationships? Two basic reasons. 1) They prefer the known to the unknown. 2) They believe that they have lessons to learn and the hard work is helping them grow.

There’s an easier way to grow. And we explore what that looks like in this article . . .

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Flirting Creates Jealousy — Hannah’s view

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-06-10 at 5.03.23 PMMy husband, Jake Eagle, just wrote an article about flirting and jealousy from a male perspective. I appreciate what he wrote and would like to add my own perspective.

In his article, Jake shared that early on in our relationship, I had a tough time with jealousy. This was true. My history was one of being with men who couldn’t be trusted, including my father.

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Flirting Creates Jealousy — Jake’s view

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-06-10 at 12.10.29 PMI worked with a client today whose stated problem was that he flirts too much. My first question, “Is it a problem for you, the women you flirt with, or your wife?”

“My wife.”

Flirting is something I know a lot about. Before I married Hannah I flirted quite a bit. After she and I met this became a serious problem for her and then for me because she was so unhappy about my behavior. We fought about it for too long. Eventually we went to a therapist and he said that I had a very simple choice to make . . .

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Being Alive Before I Die

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-06-05 at 2.23.24 PMFrom this point in your life—today—this moment—right NOW—how quickly has your life gone by?

For some, I know that life goes by too slowly. I’ve heard this from people who are not very happy. Life seems to drag along—seems like the whole thing will just never end.

But for most people, those of us who pretty much like being here, it seems that the life behind us has gone by in the blink of an eye, the snap of a finger.

And so, in the end, many of us perceive our lives as having gone by too fast. What can we do?

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How To Get What You Want From Your Partner

By Jake & Hannah Eagle

Screen Shot 2014-05-29 at 2.13.40 PMDo you get what you want from your partner? Some of the time . . . most of the time . . . all of the time? Most people I listen to complain that they don’t get what they want from their partner—at least not enough of the time to be deeply satisfied.

There’s a reason why. And there’s a simple and effective solution.

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