Communication

Stop Fighting, Be Happy

“It’s a curious fact that people are never so trivial as when they take themselves seriously”.     Oscar Wilde

Most couples fight over the most trivial things. And most of what each partner is so certain about when they are fighting—is pretty much exaggerated and all made up....on both sides. It may feel real but most of the time it isn’t.
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Communication

How To Respond When You’ve Been Wronged

One key to good relationships is to not take personally another person's actions. Recently, when my mother passed away I had every reason to take her final actions personally. She changed her will without telling me, and the change was to my disadvantage. This was bad enough, but worse, she promised she would never alter her will without including me.

Did she do something to me when she took this action? Did she hurt me? Did she disrespect me? At first, I thought so and I responded like most people when they feel wronged. I made her wrong. This is when I almost made one of the worst mistakes of my life.
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Communication

How To Connect With Your Partner

I ask most of my clients this question: "What do you want from your relationship?" Just about all of them say the same thing. They say, “I want to feel connected.” Then they go on and tell me all the ways that they behave which keep them from connecting. It’s as if they say they want to be quiet and then they start yelling.

It is not complicated to connect with my partner if that’s what I want to do. The key is to be in the present moment and turn toward my partner instead of turning away.
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General

Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

Most of us suffer from various limiting beliefs. There are many therapeutic techniques for changing beliefs. But if we approach each belief one at a time, the process takes forever. We believe there is an easier way.

In Reology, we've identified three broad categories—patterns—in which most limiting beliefs reside. As well, we've identified the general solution for each pattern.
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Communication

Who’s The Most Important Person You Talk To?

You are!

And what’s the quality of the conversations you have with yourself? Based on my experience as a therapist I would say the quality is pretty low—the way most people talk to themselves is embarrassing. They are harsh with themselves, highly critical, impatient and unforgiving. You wouldn’t talk to your kids this way, would you? You wouldn't want to talk this way to anyone you love.
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Love & Romance

Falling In Love Again

Do you love your partner, but miss that “in love” feeling you once had?

Through the years, has your relationship been on cruise control, focused on career, the kids, building a home, pretty much everything but your connection with each other? Is it time to change your priorities so that your relationship can become fun again?
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