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Be Mindfully Married: How Thinking Improves Relationships

With the demands of everyday life, marriages often bear the brunt of whatever is happening in a couples’ life. Most partners in this culture handle a good deal of stress and not enough laughs. Often they keep promising to plan to be together, to take a weekend, watch a show but the recess bell never rings. Many are worried by the thought that at times, the person they love the most is becoming the person they like the least. One possible intervention to restore and re-enforce a marriage is recognizing the connection between how we think and how we feel about our partners.
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The Transgender Journey: Challenging, Crucial and Complicated

The coming out of Caityn Jenner, a Woman of the Year 2015, brought recognition of transgender people into the public eye. With media reminders of the transitions of Christine Jorgenson, Judge Phyllis Frye, Chaz Bono, as well as award winning shows like Transparent and the powerful film The Danish Girl, there is an increasing sense that being transgender is being acknowledged as “ part of the human condition”(lore m.dickey, PhD).
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Is There Room For Forgiveness in Your Relationship?

What is Forgiveness in a Relationship? With couples, forgiveness implies the recognition that although one has been hurt by the other, there is willingness to release the negative thoughts and feelings toward the other partner. Forgiveness is not about denial, condoning abusive behavior or remaining in a dangerous situation – it is about finding a way to go on. It is about dealing constructively with anger in a way that leaves room for love and trust.
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Does Anger Destroy a Relationship? Thoughts and Strategies

Many people steam in silence, act out in passive aggressive ways or become depressed because they fear that anger will destroy their relationship: “I don’t want to rock the boat.” “It's better that I just keep my mouth shut.” Does Anger Destroy A Relationship? The basic answer is NO. Anger is a human feeling and in itself is not damaging. According to attachment theory, one characteristic of a secure attachment be it between a mother and child or two partners, is the “safety to protest” without the repercussions of extreme anger or destruction of the relationship.
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