As the country takes a close look at the presidential hopefuls stepping up in Iowa and soon in many other states, they are offered some important take-home messages.
If you ask people about the advisability of correcting a partner publicly, many will advise against it. Some may even suggest it could be dangerous. Most will admit to correcting and being corrected by their partner in public social situations.
A tall single good-looking stranger moves into your building. The new young female teacher is turning the heads of most of the faculty? Should you worry about your partner’s response?
The coming out of Caityn Jenner, a Woman of the Year 2015, brought recognition of transgender people into the public eye. With media reminders of the transitions of Christine Jorgenson, Judge Phyllis Frye, Chaz Bono, as well as award winning shows like Transparent and the powerful film The Danish Girl, there is an increasing sense that being transgender is being acknowledged as “ part of the human condition”(lore m.dickey, PhD).
You need only glance at the newsstand at any store checkout to read about the latest secret or lie exposed in the lives of the Rich and Famous. Why are we interested? Do we understand the impact of secrets and lies in our own relationships?
What is Forgiveness in a Relationship? With couples, forgiveness implies the recognition that although one has been hurt by the other, there is willingness to release the negative thoughts and feelings toward the other partner. Forgiveness is not about denial, condoning abusive behavior or remaining in a dangerous situation – it is about finding a way to go on. It is about dealing constructively with anger in a way that leaves room for love and trust.
Many people steam in silence, act out in passive aggressive ways or become depressed because they fear that anger will destroy their relationship: “I don’t want to rock the boat.” “It's better that I just keep my mouth shut.” Does Anger Destroy A Relationship? The basic answer is NO. Anger is a human feeling and in itself is not damaging. According to attachment theory, one characteristic of a secure attachment be it between a mother and child or two partners, is the “safety to protest” without the repercussions of extreme anger or destruction of the relationship.
Have you noticed that no matter what is going on in your life, the Holidays show up. Ushered in by Thanksgiving, we all know the Hallmark image of the perfect family gathered around a beautiful table to share wonderful food and give thanks. In reality, I don’t know many people who have perfect years, perfect families, or perfect gatherings. Most people’s lives and feelings are complicated. As humans, there is often something wonderful and something painful that we carry. Sometimes the wonderful outshines the pain. Sometimes we can’t feel anything but the pain. Rather than feeling burdened, disappointed, anxious or sad on Thanksgiving, why not take ownership of Thanksgiving with all the complications. Why not celebrate or redefine this holiday in your way on your terms.
The question of whether similar or dissimilar personality traits are a source of romantic attraction and marital satisfaction has been debated for years. Do opposites attract or do birds of a feather do well flying together? Maybe both for a while….
Money and sex are often considered prime factors in couple conflict and unhappiness. Yet an important but overlooked factor that erodes relationships is the lack of expressed appreciation. It’s not that people want their partners falling all over them with praise and applause. What most partners want at times is a simple, “Thank You.”