Hillary: Your honeymoon in Hawaii – tripped by the CD of ocean sounds is a terrific example of the ” safe place” that we ask couples to remember to bring back a special feeling of joy and connection that they have shared. You also exemplify in the memory of a past trauma what we call ” the echo” of trauma. Just as you describe, a current trauma like your heart attack stirs the memory of earlier traumatic or painful events. You might consider that back when you were 27yrs old ,you simple could not fully integrate that trauma – now it comes up perhaps as an opportunity for you to put it into your history with more resolution – at a time when you have more life experience, the wisdom of resolved fear from the heart attack and connection with a patient partner. You may be ready in a way you never were before. Thankyou for your comment and keep believing in your resiliency together! Suzanne