We have once again been faced with a high profile marriage scandal. This time the …
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Also women ,like men are imperfect and respond to different stimuli diferently in life and all of us are genetically wired biologically to continue the species
An affair is only painful because of the betrayal. Polyamourous couples don’t suffer the same type of earth shattering emotional roller coaster. Unconditional love cannot happen in a monogamous marriage. Monogamy is pretty big condition. At what point, as a culture, do we begin to examine that people are pressured at a young and tender age (usually 20s) to make a life long commitment of sexual fidelity and that perhaps these vows are fair to no one. On my wedding day, I only promised to love and support my husband until death due us part. Everything else should be negotiable.
Pity Kitty: Thanks for adding to the discussion .You raise the ago old paradox of the wish for life-long commitment vs brain chemistry that looks for the stimulation of the novel and the different. It may be that because in the end because we can make choices there will be those who like yourself mutally leave open the possibility of social monogamy without sexual monogamy and those who will forwever find a way to mutually keep the passion and novelty in a commitment of that includes social and sexual monogamy – Thanks again – Suzanne
Is this really not just about wanting to be noticed rather than nurturing? If tyhe ages are looked at in conjunction with time married, and take away a ‘revenge motive’, it comes down to a Woman feeling that she has ceased to be a woman in her own right, and only thinking of herself as a care-giver/supporter to others?
My long term affair is what keeps my marriage tolerable. My husband is a kind but passionless provider, my lover is incredible in bed. They are total opposites. How could I possibly find completely opposite traits in the same person?
When contemplating a divorce, an older woman friend counseled me: “But if you marry your lover, you’ll have to get a new boyfriend!”
Read “The Ethical Slut” It’s a book about getting what you want without hurting other people.
This idea that when a woman cheats its a man’s fault and when a man cheats its also a man’s fault is exactly why so many men view marriage as a trap and a waste of time.