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Guilty About Not Exercising? Possible Options

Saturday, January 17th, 2015

There is consistent evidence that exercise is important. The August Harvard Health Letter recently described, “exercise as medicine.” Research finds that it reduces stress, lifts depression, improves memory, prevents stroke, type 2 diabetes, breast and colon cancer and plays a significant role in heart heath.

While these findings are a source of validation for some and motivation for others, there are many who can’t just do it!barbells


A New Year and A Good Reason to Look at Your Partner

Monday, January 5th, 2015

A number of years ago, I posted a blog that I think bears returning to again. It made the following suggestion…

If you are motivated to improve your relationship in the New Year you might try a potent but easily overlooked step– Looking at Your Partner.


Reducing Post-Romantic Stress in Two Ways

Wednesday, December 31st, 2014

Regardless of whether they are young or old, if you ask partners about their Honeymoon, you hear and see a spark of that romantic excitement that makes time together magical when you have found that special someone to love. The mutuality of sexual desire and wish to please make the Honeymoon resistant to lost airline tickets, family pressures and even hurricane conditions.

 What is Post-Romantic Stress Disorder?

Post-Romantic Stress Disorder is a term coined by John Bradshaw in his new book, Post-Romantic Stress Disorder: What To Do when the Honeymoon is Over. According to Bradshaw, Post-Romantic Stress Disorder is the despair, rejection, or hidden resentment experienced when one or both of the partners feel that they are no longer loved and desired the way they once were.

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Why We Justify Regrettable Actions: A Psychological Perspective

Tuesday, December 16th, 2014

In the light of the debated disclosure of the CIA interrogations, the racial tension ignited by the Ferguson shooting case of Michael Brown, the NFL’s handling of Domestic Violence and the continued evidence of Campus Rape, it is worth asking why we justify regrettable actions.barbed wire


Enhance Giving: Recognize the Connection Between Giving and Receiving

Tuesday, December 9th, 2014

The Holiday Season has always been about giving. It is reflected both in terms of gifts given to family and friends and increasingly in terms of generosity of action and spirit to those we love and to those in need.

What about the other side of giving–What about receiving?

Do you give in a way that makes receiving a welcomed experience?

Do you receive in a generous way?


Missing a Loved One on Thanksgiving: A Way of Grieving

Tuesday, November 25th, 2014

Thanksgiving, which is celebrated in this country across cultures, religions, ethnicity, geography and socio-economic levels, is an emotional mile marker. It brings to the table and to the mind and heart, those we love, those we will call to exchange loving sentiments, and those we love but who we have lost this year or many years ago.fall flowers


Survivors of Suicide Loss: Healing Through Care and Connection

Tuesday, November 18th, 2014

Saturday November 22, 2014 is International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day.

In the United States, the latest evidence reports that 40,600 people died of suicide in 2012 and the number has been increasing. More Americans die from suicide than from car accidents. It is the second leading cause of death in college students, and the third leading cause of death in adolescents and young adults.

In the military the rate is even higher. In 2012 more soldiers died from suicide than in combat and as of 2014, the numbers were again on the rise.sunrise

“Suicide is a Personal and Interpersonal Disaster”

These words of suicide expert, Edwin Shneidman, underscore that for every person who dies by suicide, there are families and friends who are left behind facing devastating loss.


When Veterans Come Home: A Process of Reconnection

Tuesday, November 11th, 2014

What people do not see and may not understand is that the homecoming of a veteran is both a treasured event and a complex process.


Women and Wine: Should They Worry?

Sunday, November 2nd, 2014


In a recent article by Eric Asimov, wine reviewer for the New York Times, he discusses how wine is used as a character prop on TV shows and may reflect a changing cultural perception of wine. In this article, Asimov points out that “ On TV Powerful Women Gulp Red” and references what many have observed about their favorite fictional characters.

  • Alicia Florrick, the high-powered lawyer who is “ The Good Wife,” pours a large goblet of red wine as soon as she enters her apartment no matter what else is going on and who else is there.
  • Olivia Pope, the beautiful and brilliant “ fixer” on “Scandal” is a lover of wines and is often seen drinking alone in her apartment late at night.
  • The women of “ Cougar Town” down a considerable amount of wine and Claire Underwood, the first lady in “ House of Cards,” drinks her red wine alone in her empty dining room.

Fictional Characters Are Not The Only Ones Drinking.redwine women's hand

Whether we consider that fiction reflects our behavior, influences what we do or both, the reality is that women are drinking more than they ever and their drink of choice seems to be wine. In her book, Her Best Kept Secret: Why Women Drink and How They Can Regain Control, Gabrielle Glaser notes that women love wine and the wine industry loves their biggest consumers. Given its branding as a “ healthy choice,” it is consumed in public or private, while making dinner, with dinner and after dinner.

  • A Kate Spade necklace spells out “ Pop The Cork.”
  • It is reported that 650,000 women follow “ Moms Who Need Wine” on Facebook.
  • Another 131,000 women are fans of “ OMG I so Need a Glass of Wine or I’m Gonna Sell My Kids.”

On one hand, wine is a healthy choice. Experts report that that a glass of wine a day is heart healthy and a study in The New England Journal of medicine evaluating 12,000 women aged 70-81 found the moderate drinkers had 23% reduced mental decline compared with nondrinkers.

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Fine Tuning ” Positive Thinking” With A Plan

Sunday, October 26th, 2014

An important article by psychologist and author, Gabriele Oettingen appeared in the New York Times with a misleading title,“ The Problem with Positive Thinking.”

Actually what Dr. Oettingen offers is an important fine-tuning of positive thinking. What she suggests based on her research is not that positive thinking is problematic, but that positive thinking about a goal without a plan—be it about losing weight, passing the test, or finding a job- leaves you likely to fail. She suggests that positive thinking alone may “fool our minds into perceiving” that we have attained the goal.flying bird


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