Given that 50% of all marriages end in divorce; 75% of all divorce persons eventually re-marry and about 65% of remarriages involve children from the prior marriage– there are many parents and children trying to blend into new families.
If recognized, “ Time” can be a crucial resource. Blending a family is a process that takes place over time. If you keep time on your side, you may be able to suspend expectations, appreciate small steps and trust the power of love, flexibility and take out food.
If you ask people what they think would improve their relationship, their immediate answer is often a clear formulation of what changes their partner could or should make.
It goes without saying that opportunities to celebrate the people we love are good things. In some ways Valentine’s Day is one of those opportunities.
Research has shown mindfulness and meditation-based programs to hold promise for treating a number of psychiatric conditions, including depression,anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, bipolar disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder.
Adding to this, a recent study by Harvard researchers soon to appear in Psychiatry Research Neuroimaging will report that participating in an eight-week mindfulness mediation program actually appears to make changes in the brain associated with memory, sense of self, empathy and stress. The study validates that reported improvements are not just a result of people spending time relaxing but of actual changes in brain structure.
Since this is too significant to ignore, it raises the question for many as to how to understand mindfulness and meditation in a way that makes a first step possible. If you are confused and a bit hesitant – you are not alone.
Is your mindset holding you back? Is it keeping you locked into a certain view of yourself, your children, your partner, your life? Is it keeping you from who you want to be in the life you want to lead?
There is consistent evidence that exercise is important. The August Harvard Health Letter recently described, “exercise as medicine.” Research finds that it reduces stress, lifts depression, improves memory, prevents stroke, type 2 diabetes, breast and colon cancer and plays a significant role in heart heath.
A number of years ago, I posted a blog that I think bears returning to again. It made the following suggestion…
Regardless of whether they are young or old, if you ask partners about their Honeymoon, you hear and see a spark of that romantic excitement that makes time together magical when you have found that special someone to love. The mutuality of sexual desire and wish to please make the Honeymoon resistant to lost airline tickets, family pressures and even hurricane conditions.
What is Post-Romantic Stress Disorder?
Post-Romantic Stress Disorder is a term coined by John Bradshaw in his new book, Post-Romantic Stress Disorder: What To Do when the Honeymoon is Over. According to Bradshaw, Post-Romantic Stress Disorder is the despair, rejection, or hidden resentment experienced when one or both of the partners feel that they are no longer loved and desired the way they once were.
In the light of the debated disclosure of the CIA interrogations, the racial tension ignited by the Ferguson shooting case of Michael Brown, the NFL’s handling of Domestic Violence and the continued evidence of Campus Rape, it is worth asking why we justify regrettable actions.
The Holiday Season has always been about giving. It is reflected both in terms of gifts given to family and friends and increasingly in terms of generosity of action and spirit to those we love and to those in need.
What about the other side of giving–What about receiving?
Do you give in a way that makes receiving a welcomed experience?
Do you receive in a generous way?