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Would You Ever Join A Couples Therapy Group? An Insider Look

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be in a couples therapy group? Can you picture working on issues with your partner in a room with other couples? Do you wonder whether a couples group could really help?

Author Laurie Abraham wondered the same things and received permission to spend a year as an observer in one of the couples groups led by Dr. Judith Coche,...
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Is There Room For Forgiveness in Your Relationship?

What is Forgiveness in a Relationship? With couples, forgiveness implies the recognition that although one has been hurt by the other, there is willingness to release the negative thoughts and feelings toward the other partner. Forgiveness is not about denial, condoning abusive behavior or remaining in a dangerous situation – it is about finding a way to go on. It is about dealing constructively with anger in a way that leaves room for love and trust.
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How To Improve Relationship Closeness–“Stop Talking”

While almost everyone working with couples and every self-help book underscores communication as central to any good relationship, there are times when the last thing that brings a couple together is “ talking.”

If you have ever said or heard someone say “ We Need to Talk,” you know that those words rarely invite closeness, valuable communication or good memories!

The reality is that communication between couples is complex and involves much more than talking--particularly...
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Survive the First Four Years of Marriage: Use Anger Management

We know that only half of all first marriages make it. What we often don’t recognize is that the first four years seem to be important ones in shaping, making or breaking a marital relationship. Research has long pointed to communication as core to a couple’s satisfaction and regulation of conflict. A study by Ronald Rogge and Tom Bradbury, uncovers another tipping point of early marriage survival. The research sample included 60 couples married less than 6 months, with average age in the mid-twenties, average incomes between 20,000-30,000 and of mixed ethnicity (White 75%, Latino 10%, Asian 7%, and African American 5%). What the researchers found in following up every six months for four years was that communication did make a difference in marital satisfaction and dissatisfaction, but dissatisfied couples remained together. The true tipping point to divorce in the first four years of the marriages for this sample was aggression.
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