Research tells us that what is novel or out of the ordinary has been found to change neurochemistry and actually stimulate hormones related to excitement and desire. If you are one of many couples who like different TV shows that you watch in different rooms, consider the novelty of finding, saving and watching a show together. It may well enhance intimacy!
Enhanced intimacy is much more than watching a show together once and ending up being sexual. It is building a pattern that includes a mini pause in the midst of a non-stop culture, with non-stop media prompts to privately share something interesting and enjoyable. In a couples’ life the treasures are often found in the simple things shared.
Why Watching A TV Show Works?
What About Content?
While the most important ingredient is the mutuality of your choice, certain content areas have different additional benefits.
Comedy -Laughter and intimacy go together. A couple that laughs together shares something beyond words. In studying humor in married life, researchers found that humor promoted intimacy, belonging and cohesiveness. It actually changes us physically. Spending an evening laughing is always a good thing.
Drama- What we know about literature and films is that they often have the capacity to bear witness to life issues and feelings that cannot be represented in another ways. As such films become interactive experiences for viewers. Partners may be moved to private memories or emotions in the shared experience of viewing. They may be moved to speak about memories or issues (illness, loss, parents, friends) in their life that have formerly been difficult to address. On the other hand, for many it will be the silent viewing “together” that will offer more than words can say.
Reality Performance Shows- Many couples have shared the enjoyment and excitement of watching “ American Idol” The Voice” etc. not to mention competitive cooking or other reality shows. Some partners have been surprised at learning of the others interests or childhood talents or dreams. It goes without saying that what is watched together often becomes a bridge to the dance class or cooking class they decide to take together.
This is a culture that spends a great deal of time in front of screens of every type and size, downloading, saving, forwarding and streaming everything from news to sports and more.
Back in the sixties, Marshall McLuhan proposed, “the median is the message.” We might re-consider that when a couple stops to watch TV “ together”… they are using the medium on their terms in a way to send their message of connection.
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Last reviewed: 29 Jan 2014