This time the victim was Rebecca Sedwick, a 12-year-old girl who was at times “terrorized” by as many as 15 girls who ganged up on her and picked on her for months through online message boards and texts.
Despite the fact that Rebecca’s parents changed her school, she, like other victims of cyberbullying, found that there was nowhere to hide. Cyberspace had become a dangerous place and cyberbullying had become lethal.
What is Cyberbullying?
Cyberbullying is the use of internet or other digital devices as E-mail, instant messaging, text messages, social networking sites, web pages, blogs, chat rooms or interactive game sites to send negative and harmful messages and images. While the term “Cyberbullying” is technically used when the victim or bully in a minor, it is also applied to the cyber harassment of college students.
Cyberbullying Takes Many Forms
According to Nancy Willard of the Center for Safe and Responsible Use of the Internet, cyberbullying can take the form of:
Flaming or online fighting with vulgar language
Harassment or repeated sending of mean and insulting messages
Denigration or demeaning gossip
Impersonation or pretending to be someone else and posting damaging messages
Outing or sharing someone’s personal information or embarrassing secrets
Trickery or covertly drawing out and then exposing personal information
Exclusion or intentionally excluding someone from an inner on-line group or site
Cyber stalking or repeated frightening threats
Cyberbullying like any form of bullying is relational aggression. It is intended to make the victim feel frightened, humiliated, helpless and too often – hopeless. What makes cyber bullying particularly harmful and in the case of too many young people who have committed suicide, so deadly, is the nature and virulent reach of electronic medium.
Reported in Cyber Bully: Bullying in a Digital Age, David Knight, a high school student who found that a web page of negative, sexual accusations and negative descriptions about him had reached as far as Thailand, painfully describes, “Anyone with a computer can see it…It doesn’t go away when you come home from school. It makes me feel even more trapped.”
Statistics on Cyberbullying
Statistics reveals an increasing problem. Four in ten teens have experienced online bullying; girls are twice as likely to be victims and perpetrators, usually engaging in social sabotage of others; boys are more likely to target girls and less aggressive males; sexual and homophobic harassment is emerging as a prevalent aspect of cyberbullying; cyberbullying is most prevalent among 15 and 16 year olds; and the more that young people share their identities and thoughts on social networking sites, the more likely they are to be targets than those who do not use the sites.
Why Teens Don’t Tell
Electronic harassment is as real as and often more frightening than face-to-face bullying. Much like stalking or other types of assault the victim can often feel helpless, frozen, isolated, ashamed and not likely to reveal what is going on to parents or sometimes even to friends.
According to surveys, only 35% of cyberbullied teens and 51% of preteens told parents. The reasons given by teens in Focus Groups were fear of restriction from electronic use, fear of being blamed or expectation of parents’ overreactions.
Feeling Safer in Cyber-Space
The answer for parents is not to ban a child or teen from their technological connections or to read every E-mail. Cyberspace is as much a viable social world as the playground, candy store or Mall was to earlier generations.
Guidelines for Responding to Cyberbullying
As reflected in the title of Barbara Coloroso’s book on bullying, the cycle of this type of violence includes the bully, the bullied and the bystanders.
In all types of bullying the role of the bystander is crucial – perhaps even more so in cyber bullying.
If we overlook the ease with which our own children can unwittingly add to the horror of damaging someone’s life by passing on the secrets, privacy or exposure of another with a simple click, we make cyberspace a dangerous place.
If as parents, we take stock of the amount of time and tenor of our children’s face-to-face and on-line relationships— both friendly and unfriendly–we may be able to step in to help or get help for our own child who is acting like a bully or is frightened by a bully.
If we talk about and participate in steps with other parents, kids, school personnel and community members to underscore the power of the bystander to stop, delete, tell, block and report cyber assault, we change from bystanders to protectors. We re-establish safety. We never leave anyone in danger in cyberspace.
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