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Reporting Rape–Finding a Voice to Heal and Help

According to a telephone survey of a nationally representative sample of 16,507 adults, nearly one in five women has been a victim of rape or attempted rape and one in 71 men reports having been raped or the target of attempted rape.

As alarming as these statistics may be, they greatly under-represent the numbers who have suffered. Men and boys tend not to report being raped and women rarely report rape by a partner or acquaintance. Sadly, ¾ of all rapes are committed by...
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Driving With Your Partner: An Opportunity for Stress Regulation

Reality, fiction and lyrics suggest that romance unfolds in cars. Given the privacy, small space, music, heat or lack of it, cars invite emotional connection and events to remember.

Not Always Paradise By the Dashboard Light    

If you are in a relationship, however, you also know that as romantic as being in a car with your partner can be – there is the other side. Driving together can go from good...
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Do You Have A Problem With Destination Memory?

Have you ever realized or been informed that the person you are talking to has already heard the joke or story you are telling?

“ I already told you this?”

If you have been in this situation, you are not alone. You are dealing with what experts call, Destination Memory.

Destination memory is the ability to remember to whom you told what. The reason that so many of us have problems with it, is that it has been found to...
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Success in a Marriage Means More Than Just Being Faithful!

To really maintain a loving and vital marriage, you need to do more than just be faithful. For a successful marriage, you need to come home in a way that makes your partner know why you are coming home to him or her.

In his interesting and provocative book, Monogamy, Adam Phillips suggests, “…the cruelest thing one can do to one’s partner is to be good at fidelity but bad at celebration.”

Is he right? I think...
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Key to Life After Divorce: A No-Fault Perspective

At the time of my parents’ divorce, “No-Fault” was neither a legal construct nor a psychological perspective my mother would have considered. My father was the one who had been involved in an affair. The marriage was over and he was clearly the person at fault.

Over the years many states have changed to “No-Fault” Divorce, a determination that means that partners are now only required to swear that the relationship between them has broken...
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