Anxiety and Worry

Every Breath You Take

 

Breath is the source of life. Ancient yogis have built much of their wisdom on how to utilize breathing not just as a spiritual practice, but also a means to enhance physical and emotional well being.

"Take a deep breath" has become a ubiquitous formula to meet many challenges: it's a popular - and effective - go-to remedy to calm yourself down, to handle the anticipation of bad news or to get ready...
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Anxiety and Worry

How Body Language Helps Us Make Decisions


Sometimes the mind is too confused or too overwhelmed to give us useful information about what the right thing to do is. We get trapped in self doubt and anxiety and may end up doing nothing at all, which makes us feel depressed and not in control.

When the mind is too wrapped up in thinking, listening to the body can provide relief.

I sometimes get upset about silly things. The neighbor did this, or a friend...
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Conflict

The Soul Wants to Grow


I am starting to doubt the medical model of mental health. I am not so sure anymore that when we chose challenging relationships that it means we are having a personality defect or are attracted to the "wrong person". I am beginning to believe that our soul - the part of us that is consistent, calm and free from anxiety - choses people who confront us in ways that force us to grow.

The way I...
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Couples

How to Prevent Sex and Desire from Fading Away

 “Good lovers aren’t born, they’re made. You cultivate the erotic. It takes an active focus and intention to see your partner as an erotic person”. These are the words of Ester Perel, the new star in the world of sex therapy. Her popular book "Mating in Captivity" discusses how to deal with the potential fading of lust and romance in longterm relationships.

When asked when they find themselves most drawn to their partner, most people will say...
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Couples

Welcome Back!

Hello again! After a not quite two year long hiatus, I am ready to blog once again. In the meantime, I've completed my training in Imago Relationship therapy, which was such a gift to me and deepened my knowledge about relationships, couples dynamics, intimacy and sex therapy. You will read a lot more about these topics. Stay tuned! I am excited to be with you again.

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General

Good Bye And Good Luck!

After one and a half years, I am retiring my blog about introverts, shy people and all kinds of Gentle Selves, and turn to the new and exciting field of the science of consciousness. It has been an honor to serve all readers who shared my interest, and I want to encourage all the check out my new blog Mind Matters - Neuroscience and Consciousness.

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Anxiety and Worry

The Power Of Being An Introvert



Introverts and shy people all over rejoice: there is nothing wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with needing space and quiet, and preferring a low key dinner with a good friend to a loud and extravagant party.

There is nothing wrong with needing time to retreat from the world and recharge your internal batteries, or to feel overwhelmed by too much...
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Conflict

How Couples Can Break Through An Impasse



Couples who start to think about separation or divorce are in a place of high conflict or high dissatisfaction. Sometimes it's very easy to find the main culprit in the relationship, especially when there is verbal or physical abuse. But often it's not so clear cut.

Lots of couples aren't happy in their marriage, but find themselves unable to end the relationship. There may be an element of...
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General

When Spiritual Relationships Go Awry – Part IV




Many people who come to enter codependent relationships with their teachers are--consciously or unconsciously--seeking to empower themselves by associating with a powerful figure. They project all the qualities they feel are lacking in themselves onto the teacher: perseverance, wisdom, enlightenment, strength, and so on. They become fixated on the belief that they can only develop these qualities the closer they are to the teacher.
Making the teacher their therapist, lover, or main confidante...
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When Spiritual Relationships Go Awry – Part III



Love and care are at the heart of every functioning spiritual student-teacher relationship. It is almost never equally mutual or even palpable in overt ways, and it may never be acknowledged. It can come in many different forms and includes struggles and resistance. But the intensity of every significant bond that is forged in this arena implies by its nature the presence of affection and love.
Unfortunately, the nature of this love is...
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