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Anxiety and Worry

Five Dating Tips for Introverts


1. Fess up. Don't pretend to be a social butterfly. There is nothing wrong with being introverted. Tell your date if you are someone who seeks friendship first or needs time to fall in love. You may scare away a few flakes, and instead attract people who will really appreciate you.

2. Meet at places where you feel confortable. If you don't like loud bars, don't go there. Often introverts are also pleasers, and they will do what...
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What Is A Soulful Person



If there is a soul, what is that really? The term "soul" is usually monopolized by religions and implies an existence after death. In psychology, we use the word "Self", that what we identify with as a whole. But are they different from each other, or do they mean one and the same?

The psychotherapeutic school of thought Internal Family Systems therapy is shining a new light on this question. The...
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Anxiety and Worry

About These Annoying Seven Tips That Will Change Your Life

 Here's what's wrong with the seemingly endless and yet so fascinating lists of things that are either good for you or bad for you: They give me anxiety. Here's this list about the 7 most compelling books I should read. And then there's the one with the 10 most delicious dessert recipes without sugar. Even news organization now publish a daily list of "5 things to know for your new day", covering everything from winter weather to the...
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Anxiety and Worry

How Body Language Helps Us Make Decisions


Sometimes the mind is too confused or too overwhelmed to give us useful information about what the right thing to do is. We get trapped in self doubt and anxiety and may end up doing nothing at all, which makes us feel depressed and not in control.

When the mind is too wrapped up in thinking, listening to the body can provide relief.

I sometimes get upset about silly things. The neighbor did this, or a friend...
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Anxiety and Worry

The Power Of Being An Introvert



Introverts and shy people all over rejoice: there is nothing wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with needing space and quiet, and preferring a low key dinner with a good friend to a loud and extravagant party.

There is nothing wrong with needing time to retreat from the world and recharge your internal batteries, or to feel overwhelmed by too much...
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Anxiety and Worry

How To End Codependency


Codependency is defined as one partner being dependent on the control and the needs of another, like when a self defeating partner falls for a narcissist. For the codependent person, the needs of the other become paramount, and one's own needs and desires - sometimes even the whole personality are obliterated.

The primary task of a codependent person is individuation. Becoming one's own priority. Knowing and realizing one's desires. Discovering the self. And eventually standing on your own...
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Anxiety and Worry

Therapy Is Not For Wimps

Most people who seek psychotherapy believe that they are weak, that their life force has been shaken to the core, that they can't face the world and its challenges. But it's quite the opposite. Daring to look at oneself and one's imperfections really is an act of heroism.

Most of us don't like to admit that we often are in need: we crave to be in a loving relationship, grow roots and...
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Anxiety and Worry

Colored Lights Will Lift Your Mood


We've long known that soft candle light generally triggers a gentler mood, and grey skies can make us more gloomy. Some people tend to be depressed in the winter, when the sun sets early.

The same dynamic takes place inside our homes and offices. The artificial light that comes from the ceiling or floor lamp will have an impact on us. Especially the harsh light of fluorescent bulbs creates a cold, stark atmosphere.

Researchers at the German Fraunhofer...
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Anxiety and Worry

The Lies We Tell Ourselves To Avoid Pain

“Why Do I Do That?” is the title of a new book by fellow blogger Joseph Burgo which deals exclusively with the ways we try to deal with difficult feelings and situations in life: It’s our defense mechanisms that make us look away when things get dicey or hard to deal with. The book is released on October 29th and will be available on Amazon in print-on-demand and eBook versions. In...
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Anxiety and Worry

Exercise Instead of Medication



Exercise can be just as effective against depression as medication, especially in mild to moderate cases. Study after study has come to this conclusion, and it can even help with major depression and to prevent reoccurring episodes of it.

Many alternative health professionals talk about how "food is medicine;" now, the corresponding view is "exercise is medicine." A recent news item claiming that exercise is more crucial in managing diabetes than food, is an example of...
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