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When Happiness Becomes Exhausting

I felt nothing but utter euphoria. I was gunning my little car up the New Jersey turnpike, passing elegant cars and sluggish trucks. I was elated.

I had just ended an argument with a colleague that had been dragging on for months. For a long time I tried to be diplomatic. Then I attempted silent tolerating. Finally I got into a shouting match about the point I was trying to make – the details are unimportant. That’s when...
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Conflict

Three Ways To Prevent Conflict Around The Thanksgiving Table


Most of us have been there: You’re sitting down to enjoy a nice piece of turkey, and uncle Tom (or aunt Cathy) starts ranting. It doesn’t matter whether it’s about Donald Trump, your children’s education, or the way your hair looks with these new highlights.

The important thing is that you feel put upon – regardless of whether they bring up politics or attack you in some way. And even though it feels extremely triggering to have to...
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Anxiety and Worry

The Upside of Ambivalence & How to Deal With It

 

Many people struggle with ambivalence: Is the man I’m going out with the right person for me? Should I change this job that provides a good salary but doesn’t challenge me? Was my coworker out of line when she questioned me, or am I too sensitive?

Ambivalence can be paralyzing. Swaying back and forth between two or more points of view is natural, but when it goes on for too long it inhibits...
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General

What Is A Soulful Person



If there is a soul, what is that really? The term "soul" is usually monopolized by religions and implies an existence after death. In psychology, we use the word "Self", that what we identify with as a whole. But are they different from each other, or do they mean one and the same?

The psychotherapeutic school of thought Internal Family Systems therapy is shining a new light on this question. The...
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Anxiety and Worry

About These Annoying Seven Tips That Will Change Your Life

 Here's what's wrong with the seemingly endless and yet so fascinating lists of things that are either good for you or bad for you: They give me anxiety. Here's this list about the 7 most compelling books I should read. And then there's the one with the 10 most delicious dessert recipes without sugar. Even news organization now publish a daily list of "5 things to know for your new day", covering everything from winter weather to the...
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Anxiety and Worry

Lying Awake at Night



Last night was one of those nights again. I woke up in the wee hours of the morning - maybe it was 3am, maybe it was 5am, I don't know. I felt sad and uncomfortable. Something wasn't right. What was it this time? Sometimes I wake up at night and I worry that I don't have enough friends. Other times I am afraid I won't have enough money in the long run to live the life...
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Anxiety and Worry

Every Breath You Take

 

Breath is the source of life. Ancient yogis have built much of their wisdom on how to utilize breathing not just as a spiritual practice, but also a means to enhance physical and emotional well being.

"Take a deep breath" has become a ubiquitous formula to meet many challenges: it's a popular - and effective - go-to remedy to calm yourself down, to handle the anticipation of bad news or to get ready...
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General

Good Bye And Good Luck!

After one and a half years, I am retiring my blog about introverts, shy people and all kinds of Gentle Selves, and turn to the new and exciting field of the science of consciousness. It has been an honor to serve all readers who shared my interest, and I want to encourage all the check out my new blog Mind Matters - Neuroscience and Consciousness.

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