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Anxiety and Worry

Use Rituals To Improve Your Relationship

So much of relationship is about routine and safety. When two people know what to expect when they're coming home to their parters, they feel safe and secure. Connection comes easier than when there is instability or unpredictability. According to Stan Tatkin, author of "Wired for Love", Partnership is home.

In his eyes, the two participants in a couple are in each other's care. It is their job and obligation to keep in mind what the other person needs....
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Anxiety and Worry

Every Breath You Take

 

Breath is the source of life. Ancient yogis have built much of their wisdom on how to utilize breathing not just as a spiritual practice, but also a means to enhance physical and emotional well being.

"Take a deep breath" has become a ubiquitous formula to meet many challenges: it's a popular - and effective - go-to remedy to calm yourself down, to handle the anticipation of bad news or to get ready...
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Anxiety and Worry

How Body Language Helps Us Make Decisions


Sometimes the mind is too confused or too overwhelmed to give us useful information about what the right thing to do is. We get trapped in self doubt and anxiety and may end up doing nothing at all, which makes us feel depressed and not in control.

When the mind is too wrapped up in thinking, listening to the body can provide relief.

I sometimes get upset about silly things. The neighbor did this, or a friend...
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The Soul Wants to Grow


I am starting to doubt the medical model of mental health. I am not so sure anymore that when we chose challenging relationships that it means we are having a personality defect or are attracted to the "wrong person". I am beginning to believe that our soul - the part of us that is consistent, calm and free from anxiety - choses people who confront us in ways that force us to grow.

The way I...
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Anxiety and Worry

The Power Of Being An Introvert



Introverts and shy people all over rejoice: there is nothing wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with needing space and quiet, and preferring a low key dinner with a good friend to a loud and extravagant party.

There is nothing wrong with needing time to retreat from the world and recharge your internal batteries, or to feel overwhelmed by too much...
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How Couples Can Break Through An Impasse



Couples who start to think about separation or divorce are in a place of high conflict or high dissatisfaction. Sometimes it's very easy to find the main culprit in the relationship, especially when there is verbal or physical abuse. But often it's not so clear cut.

Lots of couples aren't happy in their marriage, but find themselves unable to end the relationship. There may be an element of...
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How To Communicate Instead Of Having A Fight

We've all been there. It's Sunday morning. The husband wants to see his parents. The wife would rather go take a hike in the woods. Or the other way around. One insists on what they want, the other resists or doesn't really engage and you're off arguing what to do with this Sunday afternoon.

The most important aspect to avoid a fight is your attitude towards the other person. If you internally roll your eyes and...
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Therapy Is Not For Wimps

Most people who seek psychotherapy believe that they are weak, that their life force has been shaken to the core, that they can't face the world and its challenges. But it's quite the opposite. Daring to look at oneself and one's imperfections really is an act of heroism.

Most of us don't like to admit that we often are in need: we crave to be in a loving relationship, grow roots and...
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The Brain Does Not See The World As It is



You know that old adage that “we see whatever we want to see?” Turns out, there is scientific research to back this one up.

Compelling evidence is delivered by British neuroscientist Beau Lotto in his Ted talk “How our minds shape perception”. In his talk, Lotto demonstrates how reality always depends on context by showing a variety of colored patches, surrounded by differing backgrounds.

The eye will perceive the colored patches differently, according to whether...
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