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Three Ways To Prevent Conflict Around The Thanksgiving Table


Most of us have been there: You’re sitting down to enjoy a nice piece of turkey, and uncle Tom (or aunt Cathy) starts ranting. It doesn’t matter whether it’s about Donald Trump, your children’s education, or the way your hair looks with these new highlights.

The important thing is that you feel put upon – regardless of whether they bring up politics or attack you in some way. And even though it feels extremely triggering to have to...
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Anxiety and Worry

The Upside of Ambivalence & How to Deal With It

 

Many people struggle with ambivalence: Is the man I’m going out with the right person for me? Should I change this job that provides a good salary but doesn’t challenge me? Was my coworker out of line when she questioned me, or am I too sensitive?

Ambivalence can be paralyzing. Swaying back and forth between two or more points of view is natural, but when it goes on for too long it inhibits...
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Anxiety and Worry

Use Rituals To Improve Your Relationship

So much of relationship is about routine and safety. When two people know what to expect when they're coming home to their parters, they feel safe and secure. Connection comes easier than when there is instability or unpredictability. According to Stan Tatkin, author of "Wired for Love", Partnership is home.

In his eyes, the two participants in a couple are in each other's care. It is their job and obligation to keep in mind what the other person needs....
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Anxiety and Worry

Every Breath You Take

 

Breath is the source of life. Ancient yogis have built much of their wisdom on how to utilize breathing not just as a spiritual practice, but also a means to enhance physical and emotional well being.

"Take a deep breath" has become a ubiquitous formula to meet many challenges: it's a popular - and effective - go-to remedy to calm yourself down, to handle the anticipation of bad news or to get ready...
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Anxiety and Worry

How Body Language Helps Us Make Decisions


Sometimes the mind is too confused or too overwhelmed to give us useful information about what the right thing to do is. We get trapped in self doubt and anxiety and may end up doing nothing at all, which makes us feel depressed and not in control.

When the mind is too wrapped up in thinking, listening to the body can provide relief.

I sometimes get upset about silly things. The neighbor did this, or a friend...
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The Soul Wants to Grow


I am starting to doubt the medical model of mental health. I am not so sure anymore that when we chose challenging relationships that it means we are having a personality defect or are attracted to the "wrong person". I am beginning to believe that our soul - the part of us that is consistent, calm and free from anxiety - choses people who confront us in ways that force us to grow.

The way I...
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Anxiety and Worry

The Power Of Being An Introvert



Introverts and shy people all over rejoice: there is nothing wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with needing space and quiet, and preferring a low key dinner with a good friend to a loud and extravagant party.

There is nothing wrong with needing time to retreat from the world and recharge your internal batteries, or to feel overwhelmed by too much...
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How Couples Can Break Through An Impasse



Couples who start to think about separation or divorce are in a place of high conflict or high dissatisfaction. Sometimes it's very easy to find the main culprit in the relationship, especially when there is verbal or physical abuse. But often it's not so clear cut.

Lots of couples aren't happy in their marriage, but find themselves unable to end the relationship. There may be an element of...
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