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We all do it to some extent.

“What if my boss saw me do xyz and starts thinking less of me?”

“My brother-in-law made a snide remark about our cousin, what if he talks badly about me as well?”

“I overheard my mom saying I look fat in that dress, I feel terrible.”

Other people’s opinions can wreak havoc on our self esteem. We take their judgements at face value and allow a careless remark to torture us for a long time.

To some degree, the attitudes in our most important social groups provide orientation and structure. It’s not that we shouldn’t care about anybody’s opinion at all. But we also shouldn’t let somebody dominate our mental well being.

Self doubt is one of the most destructive forces for our sense of self. If another person plants the seed of self doubt in our minds and we get stuck in it, we may very well end up in a depression.

When you feel the effects of someone else’s words get to you, put up an mental barrier around yourself. Imagine a protective shield go up that prevents any negative influence from getting to you.

If it gets out of hand, remove yourself from the source of negativity.

Remember, it’s nothing but a person’s opinion. We give others authority over whether their remark get through to us. We have the power to reject them or allow them to find their way in.

Look at the larger picture. Considering the sphere of your town, your country, our whole planet, one small person’s words mean nothing.

Imagine you are an astronaut, looking back at the earth from space. This view renders all chatter, all the self importance of small minds meaningless.

It’s up to you what you want to do with it.

 

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Schoen, G. (2012). Stop Worrying About What Others Think. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 31, 2014, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/gentle-self/2012/09/stop-worrying-about-what-others-think/

 

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