Archives for September, 2012

Anxiety and Worry

How To Get Yourself To Meditate

We know that meditation is beneficial. It's hard nowadays to escape the ever present pictures of the smiling Buddha, and the articles praising meditations efficacy, reaching from calming the mind to lowering blood pressure.

But how do we get ourselves to fit yet another chore that's "good for you" into our schedule?

There are no easy answers, because if you want to turn a blind eye, you will. Just like with going to the gym....
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How To Lose Your Inner Critic

It's bad enough feeling anxious or depressed. But what makes the emotional pain so much worse, is that we can't just accept what it going on inside our minds. We have to criticize ourselves for being afraid, angry, jealous and so on. That's what really brings us down: the inner critic.

Let's say something went wrong at work. One of your clients decided to go with another firm and you feel directly...
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How To Deal With Shyness And Social Anxiety

Lots of people are shy. I am, kind of. It doesn't come out as much, now that I don't go to loud parties and crowded bars anymore. I prefer lunch dates and small dinner parties, and my social needs are fully met by being in quieter and smaller settings.

A big part of why people suffer so much around others is because they feel they should abide by certain social standards. Sometimes they're not even aware that they...
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Taking On Other People’s Opinions

One of my clients came in the other day and was quite upset. About herself.

"Why can't I just stick to my guns?" she asked aghast.

It's something that happens to her quite frequently. She thinks she has an opinion about something, but as soon as someone else explains why they think differently, she sways over to the other side.

"It bothers me that I am so understanding" she concluded.

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Letting Go

Letting go isn't easy. Our tendency is to hold on to our hurt, our convictions, our attachments, and our belief that we are right.
Recently, one of my patients insisted that her boyfriend be able to read her every desire from her eyes. As she contemplated what it would be like to let go of this habit, she asked a question that gets to the heart of letting go: "Do you want to...
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Stop Worrying About What Others Think

We all do it to some extent.

"What if my boss saw me do xyz and starts thinking less of me?"

"My brother-in-law made a snide remark about our cousin, what if he talks badly about me as well?"

"I overheard my mom saying I look fat in that dress, I feel terrible."

Other people's opinions can wreak havoc on our self esteem. We take their judgements at face value and allow a careless remark to torture us for a long...
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“Serendipitous Discovery” Of News

Reading news online can lead to a "serendipitous discovery" of news items that would otherwise go unnoticed, according to a study of the University of Missouri School of Journalism.

The research says that people who are doing unrelated things, like shopping or checking email online, unintentionally come across links for new items that they would otherwise not have noticed.

The discovery is used as a reason why newspapers should advertise for their articles...
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