Anxiety and Worry

Use Rituals To Improve Your Relationship

So much of relationship is about routine and safety. When two people know what to expect when they're coming home to their parters, they feel safe and secure. Connection comes easier than when there is instability or unpredictability. According to Stan Tatkin, author of "Wired for Love", Partnership is home.

In his eyes, the two participants in a couple are in each other's care. It is their job and obligation to keep in mind what the other person needs....
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Anxiety and Worry

Five Dating Tips for Introverts


1. Fess up. Don't pretend to be a social butterfly. There is nothing wrong with being introverted. Tell your date if you are someone who seeks friendship first or needs time to fall in love. You may scare away a few flakes, and instead attract people who will really appreciate you.

2. Meet at places where you feel confortable. If you don't like loud bars, don't go there. Often introverts are also pleasers, and they will do what...
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General

What Is A Soulful Person



If there is a soul, what is that really? The term "soul" is usually monopolized by religions and implies an existence after death. In psychology, we use the word "Self", that what we identify with as a whole. But are they different from each other, or do they mean one and the same?

The psychotherapeutic school of thought Internal Family Systems therapy is shining a new light on this question. The...
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Anxiety and Worry

About These Annoying Seven Tips That Will Change Your Life

 Here's what's wrong with the seemingly endless and yet so fascinating lists of things that are either good for you or bad for you: They give me anxiety. Here's this list about the 7 most compelling books I should read. And then there's the one with the 10 most delicious dessert recipes without sugar. Even news organization now publish a daily list of "5 things to know for your new day", covering everything from winter weather to the...
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Anxiety and Worry

Lying Awake at Night



Last night was one of those nights again. I woke up in the wee hours of the morning - maybe it was 3am, maybe it was 5am, I don't know. I felt sad and uncomfortable. Something wasn't right. What was it this time? Sometimes I wake up at night and I worry that I don't have enough friends. Other times I am afraid I won't have enough money in the long run to live the life...
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Anxiety and Worry

Every Breath You Take

 

Breath is the source of life. Ancient yogis have built much of their wisdom on how to utilize breathing not just as a spiritual practice, but also a means to enhance physical and emotional well being.

"Take a deep breath" has become a ubiquitous formula to meet many challenges: it's a popular - and effective - go-to remedy to calm yourself down, to handle the anticipation of bad news or to get ready...
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Anxiety and Worry

How Body Language Helps Us Make Decisions


Sometimes the mind is too confused or too overwhelmed to give us useful information about what the right thing to do is. We get trapped in self doubt and anxiety and may end up doing nothing at all, which makes us feel depressed and not in control.

When the mind is too wrapped up in thinking, listening to the body can provide relief.

I sometimes get upset about silly things. The neighbor did this, or a friend...
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Conflict

The Soul Wants to Grow


I am starting to doubt the medical model of mental health. I am not so sure anymore that when we chose challenging relationships that it means we are having a personality defect or are attracted to the "wrong person". I am beginning to believe that our soul - the part of us that is consistent, calm and free from anxiety - choses people who confront us in ways that force us to grow.

The way I...
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