Archives for September, 2011
I bring you this collection of resources on child death because of recent news reports in my state. Two wrongful child deaths in particular have had an impact on me and many others. These reports are heartbreaking and have felt like blows to my chest, even though I have no personal connection to these situations. Of course, the death of a child doesn't always grab headlines like those two cases. It may be the result of an illness, long-term medical problems, an accident, suicide, or even miscarriage or stillbirth. When a child dies, no matter the age or circumstance, someone's always grieving.
Tonight I read a reader comment about depression and responsibility that really made me think. What if a family member clearly has depression but doesn't do much to make things work? Is it OK to just blame the depression and hope it passes? Should the depressed person take responsibility? What if everyone else goes all out to help and they still don't do what it takes to see improvement? Are there other options to make things better? I'm telling you, this topic treads on some delicate ground. I have been depressed and I understand the feeling of being frozen with uncertainty and unable to think in a straight line. I remember feeling that so much of what I did was fruitless and futile.
I know the 9/11 anniversary has already past, but my reflections have been spread out over much more than one day. In fact, much of it came late last night while talking with my kids and this morning when I was alone. I don't feel like I can watch TV shows about it with my kids around just yet. Some of those images are really hard to watch, even for me as an adult who has seen them a lot. The girls have seen still pictures, but the video is powerful in a different sort of way. Last night, we talked about the stories of that day. We talked about the general things everybody knew, and we talked about the things that were from just my perspective. I was pregnant with my second daughter at the time, so she had a unique part in my personal story.