Archives for August, 2011


Spouse Of A Depressed Person – Facing Tough Reality

Today I read a new comment on the post "When a Depressed Spouse Refuses Help" and was inspired to write a long response.  It got long enough that I decided to make it a separate post for everyone to see more easily.  The commenter talked about how tough it was to deal with a spouse that chose their depression over their family.  Their depression had almost become like a security blanket, something they wanted to be around more than their family.

This can actually be somewhat of a controversial topic.  I've read comments from both depressed people and from spouses.  People with depression want to have acceptance and for their spouses to be patient.  Spouses want their loved ones to take some action and accept their help so they can be a functioning family again.  And when it doesn't come together, families can split apart.
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School Transitions – Checking In With You

School finally started for us here and we're still working on some transitions.  Just checking in with you to see how you and your family members are adjusting to everything.

So far, the first few days for us have gone well.  Everyone has gotten up in time, gotten breakfast, and been ready to go out the door with everything (almost everything) they need for the day.  Not too bad, but I can see I have a little more work to do keep it going smoothly.

Here are a few things I've noticed that have been helping us so far:
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Cut The Clutter To Help Back To School Transition

'Tis the season for school transitions, and I'm running into a lot of clutter in my house.  Clutter in the closets, clutter in the dressers, clutter in the garage, clutter in the storage room, even the laundry room and the pantry.  Projects-in-progress, off-season clothes, clothes that don't fit, the leftovers from the county fair - and I can easily imagine what it will be like when the constant influx of school papers starts soon.

Clutter happens, even for folks who are more naturally tidy and organized.  Kids often collect clutter simply because they are still learning how to take care of themselves and their things.  This may sound off-track for a family mental health blog, but just hear me out.  I bring this up now because the beginning of school is a time of huge family transition, and it can hit like a ton of bricks if you aren't quite prepared.
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A Double Scoop Of Parenting Advice Articles

Hello everyone!  Today you're getting a double scoop of parenting advice articles.  I found it a little amusing that these articles both came to my attention in the same week.  And realistically, you may still find elements of these articles you don't agree with.  Such is the case with any advice, right?

Still, advice is something we parents are bound to receive and it's good to get new information now and then.  By the end of both articles, I hope you feel well-equipped to take in the good advice and gracefully deal with the stuff that annoys you.
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Arts and Culture

iCarly Shows Episode With Mental Institution – Stigma Reinforced?

Wow - lots of things to get to this week in the world of mental health. I appreciate your patience with me - I've been occupied with some family medical issues, but am ready to dive in to the world of family mental health for you.

The news and media have been brewing with new things!  I'll be breaking them up into separate posts over the next few
days so you have a chance to digest them and add your comments.

For today, I want to react to an upcoming episode of iCarly that I saw advertised.  I have kids who sometimes watch iCarly and some of the Disney sitcom shows.  In general, most of these shows have exaggerated plot lines that are very overplayed for the sake of humor.  I've been OK with the majority of these, but one episode in particular is grabbing my attention - in a bad way.
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How To Stop An Argument With Your Child

Yeah, I know.  That headline makes it sound too easy.  I'm not implying that within this post lies the magic secret to perfect peace with your children.  Conflict is normal and not every conflictual conversation is an argument.  I'm keeping this really simple not because it's easy to do, but because it is difficult.  Emotions can run strong when you and your child start to argue.  It's so easy to get sucked in, so I want you to have a simple concept to keep you focused.

Here's an example of a typical argument-starter you might encounter:

"Jeff, it's time to get ready for bed."

"What? That isn't fair!  Why did she get to stay up so late?"
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