Snow days can be awesome, but they are also an opportunity for sibling conflict. Who touched who, who was playing their electric guitar toy too loudly, who wanted to watch this or that show, on and on and on.
Have A Meeting In A Different Room
Finally, I tried something. I told them they needed to “have a meeting in a different room.” They needed to have a conversation and figure out a solution. Their emotions had been coming to a boil and this put a temporary lid on them. Plus, I didn’t want their emotionality to rub off on me.
I could hear them from the next room, enough to make out a few words but it wasn’t getting too ugly. Unfortunately, they came out and kept arguing. I told them again to go back until they figured it out. Finally, at long last, they come up with something they could both live with. I have no idea what the details were because I didn’t hear them bicker about it again. But it must have been to their mutual liking.
This doesn’t always work perfectly, but it did remind me (and them) that they are perfectly capable of getting themselves out of a deadlock when given the proper direction.
Here are a few tips on letting your kids do their own conflict resolution:
Siblings Buy Into Their Own Solutions
When siblings can come up with their own solutions, they are more likely to buy into them. That means they’ll be more satisfied and they’ll respond well to “having a meeting” in the future.
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Last reviewed: 6 Apr 2011