Archives for December, 2010
'Tis the season for New Year's resolutions. But in a lot of cases, resolutions get broken quickly. Perhaps a better way to frame your good intentions is to call them "new habits for the new year." That tells you there's a little work involved, not just some end goal you hope to reach.
I really hate being sick, and this is now my third week of it. Some days, I've been crabby and impatient with everyone, including myself. But you know what I first thought when I got sick? Aw, I'll just push through this. It probably isn't worth spending money and time going to the doctor. You know when I took action?
Anxiety disorders are the number one mental health issue in America today. Many children go through months and even years of undiagnosed (or improperly diagnosed) anxiety problems. Since some of the symptoms are behavioral, parents or other adults that don't understand the full range of symptoms can miss a major problem.
It's time for Christmas break. Many of you are getting prepared for family celebrations, and maybe even some travel. Even if you are ready to indulge in the fun of Christmas, you'll have some things to get used to. Adjustment and crazy schedules can be stressful after a while. I've prepared a few tips to help you stay relaxed and ready for everything that comes with Christmas break. Working Parents – Understand What Your Child Needs To Make Smooth Transitions If you will be working while your kids are out of school, make sure you have your plan in place early. Depending on your child, you may want to inform them with plenty of advance notice. Or, you might find it better to tell them much closer to the time the schedule changes. Just be sure you understand what your child needs to keep them relaxed about it.
It's the time for decorations, holiday meals, and wrapped presents. So what's wrong? It could be nothing, it could be everything. Depression is more common than you might think at the holidays. If you or someone in your family has a history of depression, you might see some of the typical symptoms popping up. Depression can even affect someone who's never experienced it before. Why does this happen and what can you do about it? Let's take a look.
Yesterday was my middle daughter's birthday and I'm reminded of a little ritual we do together. Every time my kids' birthdays roll around, we start telling stories. Of course, I'm the one who tells the story of the birthday girl's actual birth. Sometimes the sisters chime in with something they remember about a birthday last year or a story they've heard over and over. And that's the key - stories they've heard many times before. That creates the living narrative of each child's family with them as a key character. Stories like this are meant for bonding. Help Bring These Memories To Life For Your Kids Many families do this at Christmas, weddings, and even funerals. But you don't have to wait for a big even to tell your kids the stories of their lives. You can start out by saying, "You know what I was just remembering? That time when we..." If they were there and remember, you can invite them to add their memories. If not, you can give a lively account of all the best parts.
Bullying has been around as long as people have learned to wield power over each other. It's not news in the fact that we're surprised it happens. However, with the information age upon us, education and information about bullying doesn't seem to be diminishing the problem. In fact, electronic communication has simply become a new medium for an old problem. Bullying - An Old Problem With New Methods People who want to be powerful sometimes use destructive means to do so. This includes children and parents who permit it. That is the most heartbreaking aspect of this. The parents who permit and even endorse their children's abusive and harmful behavior absolutely blow my mind. I know this isn't the first time I've railed on this, but it bears repeating.
Life isn't fair, and neither is Christmas. Some people get big boxes and others get small ones. As we know, good things can come in small packages. Or three packages, or five, or ten, but only if everything is on sale so you don't outspend yourself on one person. Then you might have to make up for it with another gift, and you may have to explain why someone is getting an extra gift. Are you exhausted yet? Like I said, Christmas isn't fair. Sometimes people are tempted to make it comparatively even so do they don't upset anyone. While it's one thing to be aware of how you are using money and distributing your gifts, it can be a slippery slope if you are prone to anxious feelings or self-conscious thoughts. That's a path to perfectionism, which goes against the spirit of generosity and love. Let's see if we can disconnect you from that negativity at the holidays.
Yesterday I helped you see the bigger picture of families and personalities coming together at the holidays. I don't want this to come off as assuming that all family gatherings are hurtful and awkward. But I promise, there are enough people facing this that it bears some attention. Today we'll cover how to get around sticky social situations with difficult family members.