Archives for January, 2010

Parenting

Your Bullied Kid Is Not Alone

Bad news - you just found out your kid has been bullied at school.  Good news - they are not alone.  So many social problems and mental health problems are hidden from the general perception of the public.  People know depression is "out there" but have no idea how many people living on their street are affected by it.  Likewise, people understand that bullying is somewhere in schools around the world, but...
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Depression

Diary Of Depression Day

The other day I woke up in a somewhat fearful depressed state of mind.  I am not entirely sure why it came on just then, but I had a day ahead of me and I felt like I was painted into a corner.  I recorded my thoughts a few times, not to wallow in them but to capture them.  I don't have a diary, but that's the description that seemed to fit...
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Parenting

Self Discipline A Lifelong Gift



As parents, we put our kids through plenty of rigmarole.  Brush your teeth, clear your dishes, pick up your dirty clothes, sit down and do your homework, do your music practice, call me before you leave.  A constant stream of commands flow out of our mouth.  I have never said so many declarative sentences as when I've been a parent trying to keep three young ones...
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General

Family Conflict Power Struggles

Families are much like tiny nations.  They each have a financial structure, social structure, and a power structure.  Unfortunately, the younger members of these "family nations" tend to make a run for power on a regular basis.  Like a government coup every other day.  No wonder parents get so stressed!

These attempts at asserting power are a very normal part of a child's life.  They don't automatically know how to handle their own initiative...
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Parenting

Learning Parenting From Your Parents

No matter what happened to you during your formative years, your parents' parenting styles are not your destiny.  Have you grown up thinking you were afraid you would repeat all the mistakes your parents made?  Or on the flip side, did you have great parents and you are concerned you couldn't live up to what they did? If you are a parent now or might soon be one, take a minute to think about this.

Here's the...
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Parenting

Kids Relearn About Life As They Develop



I'm going to hearken back to my earlier post on bullying and changing times.  As I've been reflecting on my writing experience, I've had a few more thoughts to share.

My oldest is in fourth grade.  No longer a little kid, but not yet a teenager.  Captain Obvious says this is why we call them 'tweens.  Kids this age are now among the oldest in...
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Parenting

What's Your Definition of Homework Help



This morning my daughter started falling apart emotionally because she realized she couldn't possibly finish a homework assignment.  It was due today and she remembered to start it just before bed.  When she asked for my help, I waited to see what she wanted before I accepted.  I'm sure I'll be facing this situation more and more since my children are growing.  I'd like to share my thoughts on this and ask what...
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Parenting

Times Have Changed For Bullying



Some time ago, someone in school was mean to my kid. Back in the day, this kind of thing happened to me a lot.  As a scrawny kid, I got called a person from a certain starving country all the time.  I won't mention the country because it feels mean just typing it.  I didn't tell the teacher this.  We just had to live with name calling for the most part.  There were...
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General

Siblings Sharing Rooms

In most families, siblings will share rooms for at least a short while in their growing up years.  Some siblings don't get their own room until they fly the coop for good!  Get ready - this is one of those "audience participation" posts.

I put up a few ideas and then you readers are encouraged to comment on what I've posted and especially to add your own suggestions - whatever worked and DIDN'T work. ...
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