Archives for November, 2009

General

Are You And Your Family Crashing Into The Holidays?



I am curious - how many people are spending this weekend doing a lot of "crash shopping" with or for their family?  And how many of you tend to do your shopping at other times or online?  I say this because I had a "crash lesson" several years ago which completely changed the way I try to prepare for the holidays.

I used to be more about doing holidays just as they came along. ...
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General

Thanksgiving For Ordinary Things

Today is Thanksgiving, and when I think about this holiday I'm reminded that I should be more thankful.  And yes, I begin thinking about my family, the roof over my head, and large things like that.  But what happens after all the pumpkin pie is gone, the turkey leftovers are in the freezer, and you've done half your shopping list on Black Friday?  Are you still thankful?  Where do we go wrong on...
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Parenting

Bullying Between Siblings



An older kid roughhouses with the younger one and always wins.  He makes a point to rub it in, too.  The younger one complains of stomachaches and headaches a lot, especially when he's been at home after school with his older brother before his parents get home from work.

The parents tell their youngest he has to toughen up if he's going to make it in the real world.  The youngest gets sadder and...
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Parenting

Helping Kids Who Stand Out From The Crowd



Standing out from the crowd can be a kid's worst nightmare.  Not everyone loves the limelight.  And even for those who do draw more attention to themselves (on purpose or not), the spotlight can turn on them in a moment.  Kids don't always know how to handle the scrutiny, but you can help.

I wasn't a terribly popular kid in school, but I did have friends.  When I was younger, I felt like I...
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General

Avoiding Discipline Extremes



Parenting can be so difficult when you use too much of a good thing and not enough of another.  I'm taking a cue from one of my fair readers who commented on the mother-daughter post a few days ago.

It's about being too strict or too lenient, and then finding yourself on the opposite extreme end trying to make up for it.  I understand this well.  While I do believe I generally...
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Depression

Postpartum Depression Versus The Baby Blues



The more I have learned about postpartum depression, the more I realized how much misinformation is out there. Television, magazines, and the Internet continue to over dramatize and politicize postpartum mental disorders. Or, they are completely dismissive of new mothers truly concerned about their mental health. Right now, I'll just take you through a comparison of two very common postpartum mental conditions. Let's keep this simple and easy.

Postpartum depression meets all the basic...
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Parenting

The Special Mother Child Relationship



In honor of my oldest daughter's birthday earlier this month, I'd like to do a shout-out to all the moms out there.  The title of "Mom" is both common and unique at the same time.  Caring moms are all over the planet, but each one is the most important person mom in the world to their children.

Now that I've been on both sides of the Mom coin, I can appreciate this so much...
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General

Helicopter Parents – Who Are They Really Protecting?



Do you know a helicopter parent?  They tend to hover over their child out of concern that something bad might happen.  While it this may be appropriate when a real threat seems nearby, some parents take it all the way.  They continue the hovering long after the child is in diapers, long after their days of toddling around the living room, and long after they are ready for school.  Who are helicopter parents...
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Parenting

Parents – Your Poor Me Habits

Poor me, poor stressed-out under-appreciated me.  Or that's what I sometimes tell myself.  garbage circulates through my head sometimes and it just kills my day.  Even when all the evidence points to some serious sympathy points for you as a parent or spouse, you really aren't going to win anything by pushing it.

Everybody has "poor me" habits, you just may or may not be completely aware of them.  Maybe you start saying...
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Parenting

Bullying in Your Child's Life

I remember a few bullies I encountered back in my younger days.  There was the obvious bigger-than-everyone bully who didn't do so well at school.  He made up for that by showing his physical dominance when the opportunity arose.  But then there were the not-so-obvious bullies.  People you might never suspect.  Do you know about bullies in your child's life?

1- Confident – This is your stereotypical bully, like you would see in the...
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