Archives for October, 2009

Parenting

Halloween – Keeping It Easy and Fun For All

Halloween has always been a fun time for me.  Going into town to Trick-or-Treat, showing dad our costumes while he was in the tractor, going to Halloween dances when I got older.  It also kicks off the official "birthday season" for the kids in our family, starting in November 1.

It's easy to get so caught up in your kids' Halloween excitement.  But you and I know what can happen with kids who get too...
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What Mood Do You Set In Your Home?

Take notice that I didn't ask "What's the mood in your home?"  I want to know what you do on purpose to make the mood what it is?  It may seem like a technicality, but this small turn of phrase makes a huge difference.

Every parent has a million things on their list to do.  Doesn't matter if you stay at home, work part time, go to school, work fulltime, or anything else.  You...
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Can You Step Back From A Hurtful Family Relationship?



You know the person I'm talking about - that person in your family that seems to really have your number.  It doesn't take much for them to get you riled up, set off your whole day, touch on vulnerable emotions.  What is it about them that keeps you stuck with them?  It could be your sister, your mom, your uncle, your son, or whoever.  Are you able to see the forest for the trees...
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Thanks, Family Mental Health Blog Readers


It's been almost six months now, writing for the Family Mental Health Blog.  I'm definitely looking forward to writing many more posts for you.  This has been such a learning experience for me, and I hope that many of you have gotten something positive when you've visited.

I hope that you all understand that while I am trained and have years of clinical experience as a counselor, I am...
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Parenting

Kids Squirm When The Buck Stops With Them

I swear, I never thought I could hear so many excuses, so much whining, so much blame on others from my child all at once.  One reward at school was based on her individual responsibility and she dropped the ball.  She wanted to drop that ball on my head instead of her own.  Sound familiar?
Yes, kids really dislike getting called out for something they were lazy about.  And if anyone...
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Parenting

Kids Can Handle Some Disappointment in Life

Back in the day, it was good to get on the honor roll, you sweat during play auditions, and getting the state tournament was everything.  Anymore, kids get meaningless ribbons, participation awards, and sometimes no valedictorian for graduation.  Too much competition, chance to not feel included in everything, or potential disappointment is seen as harmful and un-PC.  Me?  I can't imagine growing up without it.

So many parents have gotten their feathers fluffed up about...
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Personality Disorder In The Family

A family with a personality disorder can be such a challenge to deal with.  Problems are always someone else's fault.  They either love or hate everything.  Life's always filled with drama and exaggeration.  I have met and worked with a few people with personality disorders and I find the experience unlike anything else.

Some people with personality disorders have come to understand them, often with professional counseling help.  These people have been persistent and patient,...
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PMDD and Severe Pain



I have to say, the continued response to the Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD) blog posts on the Family Mental Health blog is overwhelming.  That's so great!  I would have never guessed that my own experience with  PMDD would be able to help connect so many others going through the same thing.

I'm seeing several posts from women desperately asking for help because of their severe pain (associated with other PMDD symptoms).  Medicine may or may...
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